Why do INTPs like INFJs? (9 reasons)

This blog answers the question, ‘Why do INTPs like INFJs?’ by comparing and contrasting their traits. It will also highlight the traits of both the INFJ and INTP.

List of reasons why INTPS like INFJs

INTPS like INFJs because:

  • INTPs feel understood around INFJs
  • INFJs help INTPs make and keep new friends and allies
  • INFJs help INTPs stay  grounded
  • Both do not get tired of talking
  • Opposites attract
  • INFJs help INTPs execute their plans
  • They are both good writers
  • They are both introverts
  • INFJs stay loyal and devoted to INTPs

INTPs feel understood  around INFJs

INTPs like to be around INFJs because they feel that the INFJs understand them with very little effort. They are people who are constantly thinking, processing concepts and theories while taking in new information. 

And as such not many people are able to keep up with their intellectual prowess. The INFJ is also pretty smart and intelligent enough to sit through and understand the usual and frequent INTP “lecture” on any topic. 

Their love for academics is a great platform for them to bond both as friends or romantic partners. The INTP tends to go far in school, and so does the INFJ.

INFJs help INTPs make and keep new friends and allies

INTP like INFJs because they help them relate with people better. INTPs are Thinkers and as such their Feeling function is quite weak. As a result, INTPs focus on logic and ignore their feelings and those of others and they usually offend others. 

The INFJ is dominantly a Feeler and they can help the INTP compensate for their lack of emotional sensitivity. They teach them diplomacy and encourage them to be empathetic. 

They also show them the importance of making friends and allies. The INFJ teaches the INTP how to make lifelong friends and connect emotionally with their friends and family.  

INFJs help INTPs stay grounded

Due to their experimental tendencies and open-mindedness INTPs usually get in trouble especially when they are young. They may have an interest in some of the strangest and sometimes inappropriate things.

They may join a movement or club out of curiosity and not think about how they have to commit. Their INFJ friend or partner usually sticks to a    wise path and avoids scruples altogether. 

The INFJ will offer wise counsel to help the INTP avoid being punished by the law or running with the wrong crowd. 

Both do not get tired of talking

INTP and INFJ can spend hours upon hours writing messages back and forth to each other, communicating just for the sake of communicating, and trying out all kinds of adventures. 

They’ll enjoy the other person’s unique perspective in life. The two might find themselves talking or sharing for hours, and then needing some space the next day. They can communicate all day long about their ideas while also going about their lives.

Opposites attract

INTP respects the INFJ intelligence partly because they tend to see things the INTP does not naturally see. 

They also like how gentle and considerate the INFJ is in dealing with other people. This is because emotions and sensitivity are an area of weakness for INTPs. 

INFJs help INTPs execute their plans

The INFJ has impeccable organization and planning skills and can execute almost any plan meticulously. The INTP is very relaxed and laid back. They rarely plan any of their activities and usually do things randomly. 

They like INFJs for their ability to assist them in planning and coordinating their projects. They like something they do not have. They can also help the INTP meet their deadlines, become more time conscious, have good manners, and ultimately be more refined. 

They are both good writers

INFJ and INTP tend to be committed writers. INFJ and INTP have a lot on their minds, and they help each other by taking turns to listen to each other rant. 

The INFJ usually writes on ethical, spiritual, and emotional matters while the INTP will talk about pragmatic things such as scientific theories or complicated broad topics.

They are both introverts

Having someone around who is also introverted helps to give more space in a relationship and also more time to look at ideas. The fact that INFJs are also introverts makes them more likable by INTPs. 

This is because there is never a need to explain their preference to stay home instead of going to that party. Or explain where they had disappeared to for one week. And then suddenly come back with new and interesting information that the two can share. 

Introverts understand introverts and the complex inner worlds they have for their love that never ends for ideas.

INFJs stay loyal and devoted to INTPs

INFJs have a strong sense of loyalty and family. They tend to value their friends and relationships and often maintain relationships for many years. 

The INTP likes the INFJ because they can rest assured that the INFJ will be there for them always.

The traits of both INFJ and INTP

INTP Traits:

  • They are complicated.
  • They are vague.
  • They are very detail-oriented.
  • People have a difficult time understanding them or their needs.
  • INTPs value their privacy.
  • Do not like to attract any unnecessary attention.
  • Their introverted nature compels them to avoid crowds and people
  • INTPs do not do well in mundane and repetitive tasks but thrive in constantly changing environments.
  • They are autonomous.
  • Do not like to be micromanaged. 
  • They struggle with expressing their emotions. 
  • INTPs live inside their minds which are full of imagination and excitement.
  • They lack the necessary motivation to form and maintain relationships. 
  • INTPs are not sensitive to other peoples’ emotional feelings and needs. 
  • They are secretive
  • They tend are very faithful

INFJ Traits:

  • They are very loyal to their values and beliefs
  • They are very devoted to their loved ones.
  • Desire strongly for their lives to align with their values.
  • INFJs are naturally curious
  • They have a knack for seeing possibilities
  • Are good at supporting others in their projects
  • Seek to understand people and to help them fulfill their potential
  • They are adaptable and flexible
  • They are usually accommodating as long as their values are not threatened
  • They search for the underlying meaning of information
  • They have a habit of expressing themselves through metaphors
  • They are constantly working on improving themselves
  • They always the quality and standard of their lives 
  • The INFJ is a good balance of organization and flexibility


This blog answered the question, ‘Why do INTPs like INFJs?’ by comparing and contrasting their traits. It also highlighted the traits of both the INFJ and INTP.

INTPS like INFJs because:

  • INTPs feel understood around INFJs
  • INFJs help INTPs make and keep new friends and allies
  • INFJs help INTPs stay  grounded
  • Both do not get tired of talking
  • Opposites attract
  • INFJs help INTPs execute their plans
  • They are both good writers
  • They are both introverts
  • INFJs stay loyal and devoted to INTPs

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Frequently Asked Questions: Why do INTPs like INFJs?

Why are INTPs attracted to INFJs?

The INTP is attracted to INFJs because of their compassion and spontaneity. But the qualities that drew them to an INFJ in the first place can eventually get on their nerves.

Why do INFJs and INTPs fall for each other?

INFJs and INTPs fall for each other because they are both introverts who are intelligent and complement each other well.

How does an INTP show love?

INTPs are not very verbally expressive and so they will prefer to show rather than tell when it comes to love. They do this by buying gifts, making time, and showing up to their loved one’s important events.

What is the most mature personality type?

The most mature personality types are ISTJ, ESTJ, ESFJ and ISFJ types are the most mature types. The Judging personalities tend to be very responsible, is law compliant, and very dutiful.

What does INTP stand for?

INTP stands for Introversion (I), Intuition (N), Thinking (T), and Perception (P).

Which personality type is more prone to depression?

The personality types that are the most prone to depression are introverted types with the Feeling function. This is because they are more likely to experience negative thoughts and not vocalize them.


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