INTP falling for INFJ (5 reasons)

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This blog is going to discuss the reasons why the INTP may fall for the INFJ and will elaborate on the characteristic behaviors of the INTP when in love. Additionally, it will define both personalities and outline their characteristics.

Why do INTPs fall for INFJs?

INTPs for fall INFJs because:

  • INFJs can help INTPs execute their plans
  • INFJs can easily understand the INTP
  • INFJs help INTPs make and keep friends and allies
  • INFJs help INTPs stay grounded 

INFJs can help INTPs execute their plans

The INFJ has impeccable organization and planning skills and can execute almost any plan meticulously. The INTP is very relaxed and laid back. They rarely plan any of their activities and usually do things randomly. 

INTPs fall for INFJs because they assist them in planning and coordinating their projects. INTPs cannot effectively execute their many ideas and plans which really attracts them to the INTPs. 

INFJs can also help the INTP meet their deadlines, become more time conscious, have good manners, and ultimately be more refined.

It is no wonder the INTP is drawn to the INFJ and falls for them.

On the flip side, INTPs like that they can help the INFJ to relax a little when they get too immersed in their schedules. It makes them feel useful and important.  

INFJs can stay loyal and devoted to INTPs

INFJs have a strong sense of loyalty and family. They tend to value their friends and relationships and often maintain relationships for many years. 

It is easy for the INTP to fall for the INFJ because they can rest assured that the INFJ will be there for them always. It becomes even easier to confess their feelings as they have surety that will not be abandoned. 

INFJs can easily understand the INTP

INTPs all in love with INFJs easily because they feel that the INFJs understand them with very little effort. 

INTPs are people who are constantly thinking, processing concepts and theories while taking in new information.  And as such not many people are able to keep up with their intellectual prowess. 

The INFJ is also pretty smart and intelligent enough to sit through and understand the usual and frequent INTP “lecture” on any topic. 

Additionally, their mutual love for academics is a great platform for them to bond both as romantic partners. The INTP tends to go far in school, and so does the INFJ. This makes the INFJ super attractive to the INTP as a lifelong companion. 

INFJs help INTPs make and keep new friends and allies

INTPs like that INFJs can help them overcome their weakness of being socially awkward by helping them relate with people better. This particular quality makes the INTP fall hard for the INFJ.

INTPs are Thinkers and as such their Feeling function is quite weak. As a result, INTPs focus on logic and ignore their feelings and those of others and they usually offend others. 

The INFJ however is a Feeler who can help the INTP compensate for their lack of emotional sensitivity. They can teach INTPs diplomacy and encourage them to be empathetic. 

INFJs also show INTPs the importance of making and keeping friends and allies. The INFJ teaches the INTP how to make lifelong friends and connect emotionally with their friends and family.  

INFJs help INTPs stay grounded

Due to their experimental tendencies and open-mindedness, INTPs usually get in trouble especially when they are young. They may have an interest in some of the strangest and sometimes inappropriate things.

They may join a movement or club out of curiosity and not think about how they have to commit. The INFJ who usually sticks to a wise path and avoids scruples altogether keeps them in line and out of trouble. 

The INFJ’s wise counsel fascinates and helps the INTP avoid being punished by the law or running with the wrong crowd. 

This is very attractive to the INTP who may sometimes feel helpless and distracted by their own curiosity which sometimes overwhelms them.

The INTPs behaviorlow-keywhen they fall in love 

The following are characteristic behaviors of an INTP in love:

  • They drop the cool act and step out of character and start to write poems, buy gifts and ignore limitations to romance such as distance, weather, and prior commitments. 
  • They do not mind sharing their personal space with their person of interest.
  • They become willing to go outside of their home and comfort zone to go on dates and events where they can be with or bump into the person of interest.
  • They try to find out the personal information of their person of interest.
  • They begin to read up on the topics that their partner is interested in so that they can understand them better.

The INTP personality

INTP stands for Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, and Perceiving. It is a personality type on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. 

INTPS enjoy time alone (Introverted) but easily believe things in the absence of any direct evidence or reasoning process (iNtuitive). 

They are intellectually inquisitive and enjoy the more complex and theoretical problems (Thinking), are extremely independent in both thought and action (Perceiving).

The INFJ personality

INFJ stands for Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, and Judging. It is one of the 16 personality types identified by the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI).

INFJs are usually reserved but highly sensitive to how others feel. They are typically idealistic, with high moral standards and a strong focus on the future.

The characteristics of INTPs

The following are the characteristics of the INTPs:

  • They are complicated.
  • They are vague.
  • They are very detail-oriented.
  • People have a difficult time understanding them or their needs.
  • INTPs value their privacy.
  • Do not like to attract any unnecessary attention. 
  • Their introverted nature compels them to avoid crowds and people.
  • INTPs do not do well in mundane and repetitive tasks but thrive in constantly changing environments. 
  • They are autonomous and rarely need assistance in daily life.
  • Do not like to be micro-managed and supervised closely.
  • They struggle with expressing their emotions and understanding the emotions of other people.
  • INTPs live inside their minds which are full of imagination and excitement.
  • They lack the necessary motivation to form and maintain relationships with people.
  • INTPs are not sensitive to other peoples’ needs and struggle to be empathetic.
  • They are very secretive, often maintaining a lowkey lifestyle that is very private and mysterious.
  • They are very faithful to people who are important to them.

The characteristics of INFJs

The following are the characteristics of an INFJ:

  • They are very loyal to their values and beliefs
  • They are very devoted to their loved ones.
  • Desire strongly for their lives to align with their values.
  • INFJs are naturally curious about most things in life.
  • They have a knack for seeing possibilities and exploring them.
  • Are good at supporting others in their projects
  • Seek to understand people and to help them fulfill their potential
  • They are adaptable and flexible to most situations 
  • They are usually accommodating of other people’s views and opinions provided  that their values are not threatened
  • They search for the underlying meanings and patterns in information
  • They have a habit of expressing themselves through metaphors and figurative speech
  • They are constantly working on improving themselves
  • They always question the quality and standard of their lives 
  • The INFJ is a good balance of organization and flexibility


This blog discussed the reasons why the INTP may fall for the INFJ and elaborated the characteristic behaviors of the INTP when in love. Additionally, it defined both personalities and outlined their individual characteristics.

INTPs for fall INFJs because:

  • INFJs can help INTPs execute their plans
  • INFJs can easily understand the INTP
  • INFJs help INTPs make and keep friends and allies
  • INFJs help INTPs stay grounded 

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Frequently Asked Questions: INTP falling for INFJ

Why are INTPs attracted to INFJs?

The INTP is attracted to INFJs because of their compassion and spontaneity. But the qualities that drew them to an INFJ in the first place can eventually get on their nerves.

Why do INFJs and INTPs fall for each other?

INFJs and INTPs fall for each other because they are both introverts who are intelligent and complement each other well.

How does an INTP show love?

INTPs are not very verbally expressive and so they will prefer to show rather than tell when it comes to love. They do this by buying gifts, making time, and showing up to their loved one’s important events.

What is the most mature personality type?

The most mature personality types are ISTJ, ESTJ, ESFJ and ISFJ types are the most mature types. The Judging personalities tend to be very responsible, is law compliant, and very dutiful.

What does INTP stand for?

INTP stands for Introversion (I), Intuition (N), Thinking (T), and Perception (P).

Which personality type is more prone to depression?

The personality types that are the most prone to depression are introverted types with the Feeling function. This is because they are more likely to experience negative thoughts and not vocalize them.


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