ESFP secrets (7 you need to know)

In this brief guide, we will look at some ESFP secrets and other related things like ESFP famous people, ESFP in love, and ESFP relationships with INTJ personalities.

ESFP Secrets: Know Them Better

The ESFP secret to being so liked by others and being so outgoing is that they are so attuned to what’s happening around them that every detail that they notice instantly when someone’s body language changes help them navigate the social environment successfully.

The ESFP can secretly always tell when a loved one’s mood alters, or when there’s an opportunity available for them to achieve something they want to achieve.

The ESFP is a charming and social person, and this may be because they can see what’s right in front of them very well, and sometimes they might even wonder why everyone else is not able to see things as clearly as they do, and the secret might elude them that they have this unique skill.

While many things may be secrets about ESFP, it is no secret that the ESFP is extremely compassionate and wants to make people happy and comfortable all the time, and may go to great lengths to ensure this.

The ESFP is also not insincere and inauthentic, and they will care for you without pretense or any ulterior motive, and their caregiving is not driven by the same need for affection that an ESFJ may have, but just a simple tendency to be nice.

At the same time, the ESFP would love for people to know this secret that they expect and want everyone else to be just as nice and honest as they are, and they do not like very much when people are dishonest or work with some ulterior motive.

Many people think that the so-called “entertainer” personality of ESFP is all about the entertaining and the superficial, but nothing could be further from the truth, and the ESFP truly cares about having a positive impact on the world and their own personal growth is extremely important to them as well.

The ESFP likes to focus on their self-expression and if they caught up working in a nameless, faceless organization, they will wither away in a very short period of time.

They may not seem like the altruistic kind like other personality types, but they care deeply about their communities and they like to pitch in where they can.

Another huge secret of the ESFP is tha despite their tendency to be sarcastic or boisterous joking, they are sensitive and they always make sure they are careful not to hurt other people’s feelings.

Sometimes they may use their funny bone to grab attention but for the most part, it is simply because they are genuinely funny and witty, and they do it because they can, and there is no secret here, just an innately funny person.

ESFP Secret 1: They are not Superficial

A huge secret about the ESFP is that despite what appearances may suggest (ironically), they are not superficial in the least, and they don’t do everything they do for the attention, on the contrary, they can be deep and thoughtful, and they may do a lot fo the things that get them attention even if they weren’t getting it.

The ESFP is a true extrovert, because they have an extroverted sensing function, which allows them to be extremely in tune with the world around them, and they like to interact with their environment in somewhat outgoing ways, which may sometimes feel like they are being attention-seeking, but really, they are just doing what comes naturally to them, and it may hurt them deeply to know that someone thinks they are superficial.

ESFP Secret 2: They Seek Deep Connections

This ESFP secret somewhat piggybacks off the previous one, which is that the ESFP is not superficial, and they actually may seek deep and meaningful connections.

It may seem like all the ESFP cares about doing is forming a million connections, but it is not so, they actually would love to have a connection with someone that withstands problems and they like having someone to lean on.

The ESFP has an Introverted feeling fucntion, which makes them deeply emotional and value and tradition-based, they may often seek relationships that satisfy their need for human contact.

ESFP Secret 3: They can be Intellectual

The stereotypical, and very wrong, idea people seem to have about the ESFP personality is that they tend to be airheads with barely any substance, but the big ESFP secret is that they can be just as intellectual and intelligent as anyone else, and their social intelligence, in particular, may make them much better than most people in terms of handling relationships.

The ESFP also has a function of extroverted thinking, which means they are capable of assessing things in real-time and making decisions quickly without wasting any time, which can also be considered a hallmark of a smart person, and not an airhead as they may be presumed to be.

ESFP Famous People and Celebrities

Here is a list of famous ESFP people and celebrities:

  • Marilyn Monroe
  • Pablo Picasso
  • Bill Clinton
  • Elvis Presley
  • Ronald Reagan
  • Elizabeth Taylor
  • Magic Johnson
  • John Goodman
  • Dolley Madison
  • Benito Mussolini
  • Peter the Great
  • James Brown
  • Nicki Minaj
  • Tommy Lee
  • Ray Charles
  • Mark Cuban
  • Larry Ellison
  • Richard Branson
  • Howard Schultz
  • Leonardo DiCaprio
  • Will Smith
  • Andy Samberg
  • Steve Irwin
  • Chloe Grace Moretz
  • Brittany Murphy
  • Kathie Lee Gifford
  • William Scott
  • Jake Gyllenhaal

ESFP characters

Below a is a list of some great ESFP characters in fiction:

  • Lysandra (Throne of Glass)
  • Fred and George Weasley (Harry Potter Series)
  • Ariel (The Little Mermaid)
  • Peter Griffin (Family Guy)
  • Homer Simpson (The Simpsons)
  • Peter Pan (Peter Pan Movies)
  • Mushu (Mulan)
  • Dory (Finding Nemo)
  • Miley Stewart (Hannextremelyna)Donkey (Shrek)
  • Penny (The Big B. Theory)
  • Finnick Odair (The Hunger Games)
  • Olaf (Frozen)
  • Pikachu (Pokémon)
  • GoGo Tomago (Big Hero 6)
  • Mr. Peanutbutter (Bojack Horseman)
  • Prince Naveen (The Princess and the Frog)
  • Finn the Human (Adventure Time)
  • Dandy Mott (American Horror Story)
  • Thomas LeFroy (Becoming Jane)

ESFP in Love

An ESFP in love is just as amazing and outgoing as they are generally embracing their love relationships in a very positive and upbeat way.

The ESFP in love may have a very childlike glee towards the relationship and their lover, and they are some of the best people for experiencing new love with.

The ESFP absolutely loves to be in love, but commitment maybe a little bit of an issue, considering their other love for newness and change, which may mean that it may be a few years to spend with them in love before they decide to finally settle down the way other people in love might right away.

IF the lover is okay with taking things on a day-by-day basis, and are not too uncomfortable avoiding talking about the future, they will not have any problem being with the ESFP, but if they are someone that needs to stability of the relationship and wants to know that the ESFP they are in love with is going to stick around for sure, they may be barking up the wrong personality type.

Rollo May, an American psychologist and the proponent of existential psychotherapy, sad of love: “To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive – to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before.” 

The ESFP in love will do these things that Rollo May speaks of, they are just not going to want to talk very much about whether they can keep doing it, is all.

Don’t despair though, if you are in love with an ESFP, you cannot be blamed, these people are incredibly charming, and loving them comes easily to anyone; the good news is that with age a lot of these people mature and they find satisfying and long-term relationships with the people they love.

The ESFP in love is also a good lover in bed, and they may have a very earthy and sensual quality to them, and they may seek and enjoy intimate contact with their partners, and sexual relationship with an ESFP is likely to be very satisfying and enjoyable for most people.

ESFP and INFJ Relationships 

INFJ is someone with an introverted intuition and an extroverted feeling, which fits, theoretically anyway, with the extroverted sensing and introverted feeling function of the ESFP very well, and this may make the ESFP and INFJ relationship very successful indeed.

As an Intuitive Feeling type, the INFJ may seek deep, meaningful connection in their relationships, but since the intuitive function is the ESFPs inferior function, they may not always make it obvious that they seek the same things, but the truth is, they do, and as they mature and let the relationship mature, this may become more and more obvious.

The INFJ is sensitive, thoughtful, and idealistic, and the ESFP can appreciate these traits even if they don’t have them currently, and given their tendency to like the idea of personal growth, they might love the INFJ helping them grow this way.

Additionally, the ESFP also loves enjoying the moment, which can bring some much-needed spontaneity to the INFJs life, as they have an introverted thinking function which may sometimes make it a little hard for them to get out of their own heads. 

The INFJ is looking for a companion, whereas the ESFP is looking for fun, so sometimes this may lead to major miscommunication in the relationship, especially at the start, because while the INFJ may think this is the one that sticks, the ESFP may have other plans the very next day with someone else because they think it is casual.

To get around it, the INFJ and ESFP in a relationship need to set clear goals and ideas of what the relationship is, else it may end in frustration for the ESFP and tears for the INFJ.

A way to do this is for the INFJ to maybe consider the idea of a more casual and less intense relationship, because obviously it is not good for anyone to immediately plan the future when they barely know someone, and this may aid them somewhat.

The ESFP, on the other hand, could use is a little more stable and present for maybe more than a day, and they may like to look at their commitment ideals, do they never want to settle down or do they just not want to think about it now? A good look at their long term goals will be good for them so they don’t miss out on great companions because they just wouldn’t stay put.


In this brief guide, we looked at some ESFP secrets and other related things like ESFP famous people, ESFP in love, and ESFP relationships with INTJ personality. Please feel free to reach out to us with any questions or comments you may have.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs): ESFP Secrets

Who should Esfp marry?

The ESP might do well to marry someone with an Extroverted Thinking function and introverted sensing function like ISTJ.

The ESFP might also be into marrying someone like an ISFJ, who has an extroverted feeling function that matches their own.

What is Esfp attracted to?

ESFPs are attracted to concepts like confidence and they may also find themselves attracted to people who aren’t afraid to go after what they want. 

The ESFP may not be attracted to people who are too rigid and unmoving and like to stick to schedules, rules, or regulations.

The ESFP might also be attracted to someone with an air of mystery about them.

Which personality type is the most stubborn?

The most stubborn personality types may be INTJ or ENTJ, due to their extroverted thinking functions, and highly intuitive natures.

ENTP, the debater, can also be somewhat stubborn sometimes, especially when they just simply refuse to give up on their argumentative tendencies.

How do you know if an Esfp likes you?

To know if an ESFP likes you, you might want to see how they approach you compared to how they approach others, if they like hanging out with you more than with others, chances are they like you.

Another way to tell if the ESFP you like likes you see if they banter and have fun with you because that is a sure sign that they like you.

Lastly, to know if an ESFP likes you, you should just ask, they like honesty and they would value you coming out and telling or asking them if there is something between you.


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