The Cool, Calm & Collected Personality (A Complete Guide)

The article will explain what it means to have a cool, calm and collected personality as well as which MBTI and enneagram personalities encompass such a character. The article will also highlight traits that reflect the personality under discussion.

The Cool, Calm & Collected Personality – What It Means

To have a cool, calm and collected personality means to be able to keep composure even in difficult and hard times when people often break down and panic and are not able to remain calm. Such people are the ones who can stay in control even when there are so many reasons to let go of your collected and composed self. Hence, the first thing this personality implies is to handle stressful and difficult times with much patience and calmness.

It is also important to state that cool personalities are those ones that are not too judgemental or have an issue with what others do! They accept people and hence they are cool with the choices they make. This does not mean that they do not care or have no opinion; such personalities, when the time is right, will voice out the concerns they have as well as what they think is right or wrong however they will not impose their opinion on the other person or label them! This is a great quality to have and requires a person to be cool and calm about what people do and to have the wisdom to determine when it is a good time to speak up or stay quiet.

The word ‘collected’ can refer to being composed or having control over one’s daily tasks. Imagine this! A person who has taken too much work onto themselves and slowly they are losing control and not being able to achieve their tasks. After every few minutes they remember that they forgot to do something and they are running to get delayed tasks done. However, a collected personality is someone who is able to manage their tasks even if they are a lot – even if they are running behind on schedule they will find a way to catch up in a civilized manner and not have to make a fuss.

Another trait such personalities have is that of being calm. They are soft in the way they speak and do not make much fuss or racket when getting things done. Even if they have encountered an issue they will deal with it in the calmest way possible.

Hence, we can conclude that a cool, calm and collected personality is one who:

  • Manages their tasks well
  • Does not judge or label others
  • Works well under high pressure situations or stress
  • Works in a calm and smooth manner
  • Is polite and soft in their behavior
  • Accepts others
  • Is naturally wise

What Personalities Are Cool, Calm & Collected?

Here are some personalities from the MBTI inventory and enneagram system that are cool, calm and collected:

  • The Type 9 Enneagram – The Peacemaker
  • The ISFJ – Defenders

Enneagram Type 9 – The Peacekeeper

These personalities just want everything to be okay! They desire peace and justice and will do absolutely anything to obtain this. They avoid conflict at any cost and will prefer to stay far away from it due to the suffering and pain it causes as well as the unproductive outcomes that accompany it.

The type 9 enneagram is one that fears loss and separation and they do not want to be in the bad books of anyone. This is why they are generally quite accepting and agreeable because they do not want to clash much with others even if it means not getting their point across or effectively expressing their views and why they support a certain stance!

This enneagram type that is also known as the ‘Peacekeeper’ has a number of strengths. First of all, they can remain calm in most situations and not panic or get frustrated because they recognize conflict and know – or at least choose – how to deal with it! Hence, unlike others, they will prevent the situation from worsening. They are great mediators when it comes to helping two people calm down and end a fight between them; they will help them express their views and encourage them to let go of things wherever they can – they will not add spice to the conflict. Also, this enneagram type can see multiple perspectives because their aim is not to win the conflict but to end it and hence they will do just that even if it means listening to others and their own self.

However, with strengths there are weaknesses too! They have the tendency to minimize problems because they just want to get rid of conflict rather than truly face and solve it. Also, because they do not fully express their true feelings, they may become passive aggressive!

What Is The Basic Fear Of Type 9?

The type 9 is afraid of losing what they are fighting for; basically, they do not want to lose the thing or people that matters to them the most and they will put in all their efforts to keep what they want with them.

They are afraid of separation and distance coming between them and their loved ones. Whether it is a foreign assignment, new work tasks that prevent the peacekeeper from being at home with loved ones or the new kid at school who is slowly taking over their friends, the negotiator fears whatever can be a source of destruction for their most loved relations.

If you’re facing this, it may be a good idea to seek the help of a therapist or other mental health professional. You can find a therapist at BetterHelp who can help you learn how to cope and address it.

What Is The Basic Desire Of Type 9 Enneagrams?

The type 9 enneagram desires peace which is not only external but internal too. They want to feel content, satisfied and secure in their life and not be fearful that someone or something can take away what they desire most. Their personality encourages them towards an idealized world hence these individuals not only want peace but the best type of peace which can only be achieved if they create a surrounding that is based on the best foundations.


The ISFJ personality types have an innate urge and sense of responsibility to carry on tradition. Hence, they uphold traditions, appreciate rules and systems that have been put in place as well as socially constructed concepts such as those of social norms and community life.

When it comes to ISFJs, these individuals like to make decisions based on facts and figures; they believe in presenting a strong picture backed with much evidence especially when they need to convince someone or take an important decision. These individuals do not like indecisiveness and prefer to take bold and strong decisions that they firmly believe in. They also get quite irritated if someone challenges their thought process with poorly built arguments.

These individuals value commitment and promises very much. So if you ever want to get in the bad books of a Logistician, just lie to them and be irresponsible or lazy. I guarantee you will get a spot in the blink of an eye!

They need someone who will complement their work and not create a hurdle in it. If they find coworkers or friends like that or even a spouse it is a great achievement for them but if they don’t, then they don’t mind being alone because of the peace it brings them to pursue their goals. 

The ISFJ has the feeling function. ISFJs give preference to their day to day dealings and how they understand their surroundings. This is very important in helping a relationship get through. Oftentime it is not possible to rationalize things in a relationship hence one must employ the power of love, mercy and forgiveness to take things forward.

ISFJs are generally unassuming and calm. They are strong in their analytical abilities but still prefer to mind their own business and keep others at bay so that they do not become too nosy.

People who have sensation as a dominant function have much control over their senses and use them well to not only take in much information but that information which is useful. People who sense give significance to the past and present because they want to learn from experience rather than create new knowledge by experimenting with it in their mind.


This article explained what a cool, calm and collected personality is like and highlighted their major characteristics or behaviours. Furthermore, the article provided two examples of such a personality both from the MBTI and enneagram personality systems that exist.


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