What each MBTI type wants (but is afraid to ask)

In this blog post, we will answer the following question: What does each MBTI type want but are afraid to ask? We will describe what the 16 personality types secretly wish for, and how to give it to them!

Here’s what each MBTI type wants 

What each MBTI type wants depends on their unique characteristics that form one’s personality, of course. Character is what brings together our behavior patterns, our emotional and cognitive traits in us throughout our lives. 

What the Myers-Briggs indicator does is that it classifies those traits and patterns into 16 different personality types in which it explores the most important and unique aspects of each one globally. 

Below we will explore all 16 personalities and their most secret wishes. So, here’s what each MBTI type wants. 

ESTJ (Extraversion –  Sensation – Thought – Judgment)

The ESTJs are natural leaders, so they want to have responsibilities, to order and structure things. They also wish for safety, stability, and tradition.

The ESTJ is the personality type of executive or inspector. It’s about those people who like to be in control. They are excellent managers of both things and people; they are practical; they want to organize and manage activities.

ESTP (Extraversion – Sensation-  Thought – Perception)

The ESTPs just want to have fun! They want to live the moment at its highest intensity. They like the action, they always seem to have something to do.

Those who belong to this type of personality are also called the entrepreneurs or promoters of the group. They are intelligent and energetic people, spontaneous, happy, and active. They tend to be leaders and dominate because they are charismatic and insightful

ESFJ (Extraversion – Sensation – Feeling –  Judgment)

ESFJ wants to be appreciated and loved for what they are and what they know and can offer others. This need for them is undeniable when, if they do not deliberately receive such appreciations, they go so far as to ask for them, being very emotional.

Also called the Providers, they are cooperative, expressive, sociable, popular and considerate people. They are always there ready to help and take care of their close circle. Since they like their circle to be fair, they may avoid strong conflicts and are very diplomatic in their arguments.

ESFP (Extraversion – Sensation – Feeling – Perception)

ESFPs are people who give special importance to their love relationship, just as they perceive life in general. They like to be in love, they try to do everything possible from every moment. They do not feel very comfortable thinking about the future because they see life not in plans but in a series of days, one by one.

It is the type of personality that animators and group actors have; they are people who like to entertain themselves and entertain others. They are fun, happy, spontaneous and very energetic. They are unconventional and look for creative ways to satisfy their needs. They are excellent team players.

ISTJ (Introversion – Sensation – Thought – Judgment)

ISTJs want to be right! Facts are very important for this type of personality because they are people with a high sense of morality and duty, so they are extremely reliable. Whatever they do has to make sense to them, and they put all the energy into doing it, but if it’s not relevant to them, they don’t do it. They like to plan and implement rule systems so that they work logically and clearly.

In a relationship, ISTJ is loyal, devoted partners who will do everything possible to make their relationship a success. They gladly fulfill the roles that a relationship involves because, in general, they are very good at achieving everything they set out to do. So, if they aim to have a successful relationship, they are very likely to succeed.

ISTP (Introversion – Sensing – Thinking – Perception)

ISTP wants to live in the moment! ISTPs are generally very capable individuals who are good at almost anything that captures their interest. They are interesting individuals, smart with a lot to offer. They live almost entirely in the present and make no promises that go beyond the foreseeable future.

This is one of the personality types of quiet people, with a special interest in understanding how systems work. They are excellent at analyzing situations, finding the problem, and providing practical solutions. Although they are reserved people, they are also spontaneous and very observant. They have a penchant for high-risk activities that fill them with adrenaline.

ISFJ (Introversion –  Feeling –  Feeling – Judgment)

ISFJ wants to help others but sometimes is too shy to get involved. We could call them the defenders and protectors of the group. They are caring, observant, and cooperative people who care about the welfare of others and it makes them really happy to help those in need. Its realization is the safety of others.

They are not very good in positions of authority, rather they prefer to do the work themselves and are not very ambitious, so when they ask for compensation for their sacrifices when working they take it as something that should be part of the work.

ISFP (Introversion – Sensation – Feeling – Perception)

ISFP just want to be left alone, but cannot say No. ISFPs are warm, generous people who know how to take care of the other with a lot of depth, with emotional depth, rarely observable from the outside, except for those who know them well. Some people live with intensity, who experience emotions on a very intense level. 

Adventurers and composers of their own lives, they are quiet people who live at their own pace and in the moment. They are always looking for novelty and situations that stimulate their senses for what is a very typical personality type of artist. Their values ​​are very important to them and they do not need to discuss them or share their point of view. They are cheerful, spontaneous, warm, and caring about their people.

ENTJ (Extroversion – Intuition – Thought – Judgment)

ENTJ secretly wants everyone to admire him! The commanders, leaders of the group, are people with a very strong will, they are bold and imaginative and they are always paving a path and adapting it to change as the environment varies. 

It is one of the personality types that perform best in leadership and assertiveness. They have very agile and strategic thinking and are good communicators of their ideas.

ENTJ are partners who take their commitment seriously, are enthusiastic about the relationship, but also aggressive. As in other areas of life, they want to be leaders in relationships with loved ones, taking responsibility for the smooth running of the relationship. They are creative leaders and it is possible to have relationships to promote self-development and learning, continuous self-education.

ENTP (Extrovert – Intuition – Thought –  Perception)

ENTPs have the same purpose in intimate relationships as in other areas of life: the constant improvement of the way of being, personal development. He constantly asks “how can a relationship be improved? Where does a relationship lead? Do I develop enough in this relationship?” 

He enthusiastically embraces new ideas and projects, for them and for the partners he takes with them on the adventure of knowledge. The enthusiasm and good intentions of an ENTP are usually positive aspects of their relationships.

Innovators or inventors are extremely curious people with fascinating mental agility. They are people who love to answer questions that stimulate them intellectually, they like challenges of this type and can become competitive. If innovative solutions are needed, these are the right people to get them.

ENFJ (Extrovert – Intuition – Feeling – Judgment)

ENFJ is committed to long-term relationships with loved ones. They are totally dedicated to reality and their partners and have a special gift to reveal what is most beautiful about the other. They do everything to make the relationship successful. If a failure occurs, they blame themselves for not doing everything in their power to save the relationship. But they have the power to move forward without looking at the ruins of the past relationship.

They are those protagonists, such as teachers who are charismatic leaders and who manage to be really heard by their audience. They are people who expect the best from those around them and motivate them to achieve it. They are good communicators, expressive, and cooperative. They are quite creative and manage to improvise very well when they have not been able to organize or plan something as they like. They are good at influencing the behavior of others.

ENFP (Extrovert Intuition Feeling Perception)

ENFP takes life very seriously, approaching people with innocent enthusiasm and a lot of energy. They seek and demand authenticity and depth in relationships and put a lot of effort into their success. They are warm, respectful, positive, generous and very focused on the well-being of the relationship. 

They have very good relationship skills and are able to motivate and inspire those around them. Energetic and effervescent, ENFPs are highly valued for their sincere affection and humanitarian ideals.

They are very good at motivating other people, inviting them to participate in their convictions. They are activists, and they get involved in collective tasks in which they can help others seeking to have a social impact.

INTJ (Introversion – Intuition – Thought – Judgment)

INTJs are people who believe in a steady increase in relationships and are in favor of maintaining their independence and that of their partners. They are always involved in relational improvement projects. They take their commitment seriously but are open to reanalyzing it, which seems to them to be an improvement over the existing situation. They are not very emotional and can sometimes seem insensitive. 

They are very capable, intelligent individuals who always want to move in a positive direction and offer what they can best.

INTP (Introversion – Intuition – Thought – Perception)

INTP want loyalty. It is generally easy to live near an INTP because they have simple daily needs and do not overwork their partner in almost any field. Because the inner life of an INTP is very complex and theoretical, that is why its external needs are simpler. 

They like their outside world to be as uncomplicated as possible so that they can focus inside on theories, abstract ideas. This makes them honest lovers, with almost pure love in its simplicity.

This is a much more reflective personality type, although as in the previous one they also have an insatiable thirst for knowledge. They are people who explain everything that happens from theories, which they value much more than solving specific problems. They can be perfectionists and maybe correcting others all the time.

INFJ (Introversion – Intuition – Feeling – Judgment)

INFJ wants to find the right partner. They are perfectionists, always looking for the perfect relationship, the perfect partner. This can become frustrating for their partners who may feel overwhelmed by the requirements of an INFJ. If you’re facing this, it may be a good idea to seek the help of a therapist or other mental health professional. You can find a therapist at BetterHelp who can help you learn how to cope and address it.

However, they are instead appreciated by the partners for their full, sincere commitment and the relationship’s depth.

They are those people that we consider advisers. They are gentle, kind, sensitive, reserved, and cooperative. They are very intuitive and empathetic and listen actively to communicate well with others in a personalized way. They read the emotions of others very well and are prone to both reflection and action.

INFP (Introversion  – Intuition – Feeling – Perception)

INFP people are very loyal and involved, devoted to the relationship. Having the Affective part central, harmony is the one sought in relationships by such people. They need to be in a very devoted, authentic connection, and if they don’t have such a relationship yet, they are either looking for it or building an imaginary one in their mind.

This is one of the personality types that people we see as mediators have and who care about helping good causes, albeit with a less moralistic sense than INFJs. They are creative people with a remarkable aesthetic and artistic sensibility; they are also altruistic and very kind people.

Final thoughts

In this article, we shortly explained what each MBTI type wants. However, there is another point we want to address in this article. Is MBTI accurate? The truth is that there has been a lot of controversy surrounding the test.

Some reject the Myers-Briggs indicator because they say that the personality types are abstract and ambiguous and are not based on a scientific method, but on the theories of Carl Jung, insufficient to be able to define and isolate patterns of behavior. personality.

Those who reject it also argue that in this type of test, we sympathize with various personality types from the description, but not really because we are.

What do you think? Is the MBTI type accurate, or should we not give so much credit to this personality test? Please let us know what you think in the comments section below!





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