The Male INTJ Personality (A 3 point guide)

This article will explore the male version of the INTJ personality type by studying their dominant psychological functions, behavioral and cognitive traits and what women can expect in a relationship with them!

The Male INTJ Personality: What To Expect?

The male INTJ personality type can be described as someone who is very independent, prefers logical explanations, avoids too many emotionally charged situations and is very committed when it comes to relationships with an intimate partner.  

The article will first look at how the Myer Briggs test operates after which it will discuss the dominant functions of the INTJ personality type by relating it to the typical man we all know!

 What is the Myer Briggs Type Indicator?

The Myer Briggs Type Indicator is a self-report questionnaire based on Carl Jung’s theory that individuals experience the world using four psychological functions namely sensation, intuition, feeling and thinking with either one of these being the dominant factor. The personality test determines which of these functions best describes a person hence detailing their personality, strengths and attitudes; it assigns one of the 16 personality types (just like INTJ or ETSP) to the individual taking the test.

In this article, we will take a look at what type of personality traits male INTJs adopt predominantly in comparison to a typical INTJ person.

The Dominant Functions Of  A Male INTJ.

When it comes to the male INTJ personality type, some functions may apply more while others less due to the element of gender in this domain as well as social and cultural expectations we have from this gender. Let us start off with this section!


Well when we talk about men and women we all know who gets the label of the ‘chatter box’! Although it is widely held that women talk more, it is not very true. There are many men who have a habit of being gregarious and hence they are suitable for some certain jobs such as those of a salesman, commentator, speaker or even a manager in the field of human resources. So yes there are men who talk or are very social. But what about men who are quiet?

These men prefer solitude over social gatherings, are more focused and reflective in their thoughts and can develop more deeper understandings which lead to better ideas, solutions and creativity. So compared to the men you see who are pretty good at picking up girls or keeping the energy alive in a party, these INTJs will be the backbenchers you need to go talk to.

Furthermore, introverts can be defined as ‘measured’ people. They think very carefully before they speak and when they speak it is limited. They are better able to process information by thinking over it in their head instead of participating in a brainstorming session. Also, their behaviours reflect their inner world; when they think they automatically become quiet, more focused and reflective while doing so hence their thinking and behaviour is in sync. Hence, don’t get overwhelmed when they don’t reply as fast as you want them to or go quiet. They just need time to think over what you said or what it is they want!


INTJs, men or women,  have the same function here. They both are intuitive which means they don’t always focus on the facts or what is in front of them. Yes they very much appreciate logic and the relationships they can see however, this does not stop them from thinking out of the box. People who are intuitive are known for making many discoveries in world history and this does not happen by just ordinary thinking; they must go beyond the scope they are given! They give value to their vision, dreams and even imagination and combine that with what they already have in their hands.

When it comes to intuitive men, they are indeed gems; they have dreams and visions they want to achieve and they will not let anything stop them so they need a partner who helps them excel rather than hold them back. In that case, they will be very dismissive of anyone who is contradicting what they believe in or mocks their theories. Be understanding!


Men are already blamed for not being understanding or emotional enough! But this is just going to get worse with males who are INTJs. But this doesn’t mean they don’t care about you, it’s just that they understand and express themselves differently and you need to accept them. It does not affect the love they have for you and talking in their language will make things easier for the both of you.

INTJ males give weightage to their thoughts and what seems structured or logical rather than the emotions they feel for others. Sometimes this can be detrimental and they find difficulty in understanding the emotional complaints or requests their loved ones have. People with this personality type focus on values like truth and justice and prefer to see the logic or aim of things. They can be described as task oriented rather than people oriented.

A Man Who Judges.

You might need to be on your toes with this one but they do have benefits. Men who are perceivers may not understand your desire for surprise birthdays or dinner dates nor will they understand that they need to get you gifts from time to time. However, they will never let you stay waiting when they have to pick you up nor will they keep you waiting at a scheduled dinner together. Once they know you need something they will make every attempt to get what you need.

Men who have the judging function are very particular about having schedules; they want to know what needs to be done when and prefer not to have too many surprises in their routines because it affects their work and tasks they need to get done. They will appreciate a woman who has much of the things organized and already done so impress them with your management skills ladies!

What To Expect From INTJ Males?

Growing Together.

Men who are INTJs want to grow with you; they do not like stagnant relations that have no element of learning, excelling in your goals or visions or knowledge. They want to be able to have conversations with you that only entail learning or be able to learn something from you that benefits them. Similarly they want to do the same for you. 

Make the relationship one where you teach each other and grow together. You can join classes together on a topic both of you appreciate, keep days when you guys sit together to discuss the new things you learnt over the week and go to places like exhibitions or museums together.

Avoid Drama.

Men who are INTJs like to stay out of other people’s affairs so they won’t enjoy gossipping a lot with you nor will they want others interfering in your relationship with him. He appreciates privacy. 

INTJ males are unable to process too many emotions hence they may become distant or confused when you become too expressive or utter too many words in a go to describe how you feel. They need you to explain yourself in a more structured manner and they want you to be very direct in telling them what you basically want from them.

Loyal Creatures.

The best thing about INTJ males is that they are very loyal and supportive. They won’t go snooping around and their interests will lie in you only. They want to grow with you and love you only and hence they will always be loyal although they may not understand your emotionality as well as others. 

They won’t waste your time in saying sweet things but they will definitely make sure they do something to solve any problem you face either because of someone else or them! They want to stay with you and will make the effort. Just recognize them for it and reciprocate it in the way they want it.


The article delved into the discussion of what type of personalities are INTJ males and how they behave when it comes to their dominant psychological functions. Furthemore, the article pointed out what women can expect when they are with an INTJ male in an intimate relationship and how they should go about important matters.

Frequently Asked Questions: The Male INTJ Personality.

What attracts an INTJ male?

An INTJ male is attracted to someone who is blunt, honest and very clear in what they want so it is possible they prefer mature women who have many things cleared out in life and are looking for a serious relationship.

How to know if an INTJ guy is interested in you?

An INTJ guy is interested in you if they include you in their future plans, make an effort to contact you or spend time with you and give you compliments.

How to win over an INTJ man?

To impress or win over an INTJ male you must be confident, honest in what you want and express the ability to understand how things work generally in the world.


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