ISTP relationship compatibility (2 personalities)

This blog will look at the personalities that are most compatible for relationships with the ISTP. It will discuss what the ISTP wants and doesn’t want in relationships. It will further define the ISTP personality and outline its characteristics.

Personalities compatible for a relationship with an ISTP

The most compatible personalities with the ISTP are the following:

  • The INFJ
  • The ESTP

The INFJ

The INFJ is a personality that is an ideal partner for the ISTP who is a Sensor and Perceiver. The ISTP is the type of personality who can easily accept people from all walks of life, so long as they can enjoy your time together. 

The INFJ is an Intuitive Feeler and as such, they have a highly idealistic perception of the relationships. They want to make sure the relationship allows them to uphold their values and is not a hindrance. 

The INFJ is a tireless cheerleader for people’s dreams and ambitions which is perfect for the ISTP who is always working on one project or another.

The major difference between the two is that the ISTP is a Thinker which makes them emotionally detached. The INFJ has the Feeling function which makes them very emotional.

As a result of this difference, the INFJ may teach the ISTP how to show them and others affection. They may also drive the ISTP to learn how to show romantic gestures which the ISTP is not gifted at doing.

On the other hand, the ISTP will help the INFJ make logical and informed decisions as opposed to just following their feelings in that decisive moment.

The INFJ is therefore idealistic, sensitive, and empathetic. They feel things deeply and take their values seriously. 

They are very much in tune with the state of the world and the feelings of other people and are always thinking about how to make the world a better place. 

The INFJ can inspire the ISTP to slow down and think more carefully about the meaning of their actions, rather than just doing what feels right at the moment. 

In turn, the ISTP can help the INFJ to get out of their heads and enjoy life for what it is and pay attention to their reality.

Additionally, INFJs are meticulous planners who can assist in the 

execution and planning of the ISTPs project. They will also bring stability and help the ISTP to be less of a rule breaker and be more grounded.

The ESTP

The ESTP is essentially the extroverted version of the ISTP. they share the same functions and personality which creates ground for little or no disagreements.

They are both Sensors which makes their core focus enjoy the moment. In relationships, this means they will have an easy synergy, and will often prioritize the same things

They are both emotionally detached people focusing on logic and evidence which makes them less concerned about whether they connect with other people on a deep level. 

The two will share a casual, spontaneous approach to life and an interest in having fun whilst enjoying the moment. 

However, the ESTP is an extrovert which makes them have a higher energy level for social interactions paired with enthusiasm. This may be overwhelming for the introverted and aloof ISTP. 

The ISTP may need to set boundaries and let the ESTP know when they need space and quiet. The ESTP will also need time to go out and socialize at parties and social events to recharge.

The ESTP will also tend to naturally speak more quickly and have more to say than the ISTP who is quiet and reserved is comfortable with letting others speak. 

The ISTP may leave conversations feeling like they didn’t get a chance to get their points across while the ESTP may feel that their counterpart is boring.

Due to a lack of differences, this relationship may offer little or no room for growth as there will be few challenges.

What ISTPs want in a relationship

To be happy, comfortable, and stay committed in a romantic relationship the ISTP usually desires the following conditions:

  • They desire relationships with people who indulge in a variety of activities and events. Therefore, the relationship must be full of new experiences so that they do not get bored or lose interest.
  • ISTPs desire a relationship with a person who understands their impulsive nature. A person who can match that energy by equally being spontaneous is ideal for them.
  • ISTPs seek independence as they embark on various personal projects and live by their own rules. Therefore, a partner who does not mind this about them would be ideal.
  • ISTPs are the type to want to be alone even when they have someone by their side because they are introverts.

What ISTPs do not want in a relationship

ISTPs do not want the following things in a relationship:

  • They do not want a dramatic and overly emotional partner. They prefer a relationship that is peaceful and easy to manage minus so much drama and problems.
  • They do not like clingy partners who will follow them everywhere and stick to them like glue. They want their space and independence.
  • They do not like routine-oriented relationships in which they are always doing the same things and going to the same places over and over. 
  • They do not like relationships that are very demanding of their time and energy. They are people who are constantly preoccupied with their business and they don’t want to get overly involved in such things.

The ISTP personality

ISTP stands for Introverted, Sensing, Thinking, and Perceiving. It is a personality type on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. 

Such an individual gets energized by spending time alone (Introverted) and is mainly drawn to routine-oriented details over theories and beliefs (Sensing). 

They make decisions by methods of critical analysis and logical reasoning (Thinking). They are more impulsive and adaptable rather than planned and routine-oriented (Perceiving).

Characteristics of an ISTP

The ISTP is typically characterized by the following:

  • ISTPs like to take things apart and see the way they work
  • They’re good at logical analysis, solving practical problems and concerns
  • They are graced with a strong ability of reasoning
  • ISTPs have a daring spirit and embrace challenges and are attracted to adrenaline spiking activities
  • ISTPs are prone to becoming bored and uninterested very quickly if they keep doing the same thing.
  • ISTPs are introverts so they spend a lot of time alone and don’t enjoy social activities and being in crowds.

The strengths and weaknesses of an ISTP

Like any other personality, ISTPs possess both strengths and weaknesses which will be discussed in this section.

The weaknesses of an ISTP:

  • ISTPs are not interested in theories or concepts largely because they lack practical application and cannot be proved or verified as fact.
  • ISTPs are fiercely independent which impedes their ability to work with and rely on others in the work setting.
  • An ISTP desires to make their own decisions about their next step without little or no external influence. 
  • The typical ISTP has low compliance to rules and regulations, as this gets in the way of their ability to do whatever they want.
  • ISTPs pay no attention to their feelings and the feelings of others. They doubt the credibility of emotions, distrust them and ignore them and value logic.  This makes them very inconsiderate of their partners as they cannot properly empathize with others.
  • ISTPs are prone to becoming bored and uninterested very quickly if they keep doing the same thing.
  • ISTPs are introverts so they spend a lot of time alone and don’t enjoy social activities and being in crowds. Dinner dates and couple events may prove to be draining and tedious which can negatively impact the chances of their relationship flourishing.

The strengths of an ISTP:

  • ISTPs have a compelling drive to understand the way things work. They like to take things apart and see the way they work.
  • They’re good at logical analysis, solving practical problems and concerns. They are graced with a strong ability of reasoning
  • ISTPs have a daring spirit and embrace challenges. They are attracted to adrenaline spiking activities such as skydiving, surfing, bungee jumping, white water rafting, and motor car drifting, etc.
  • They are usually fearless and can be useful in carrying the more challenging tasks. 
  • Though they are rebels at heart, ISTPs are compliant to their causes and beliefs and will not stray from their principles. 
  • ISTPS are strong advocates for fair treatment and equality for all people. This is as a result of their objectivity and so they tend to hold no prejudices against any people. They can easily thrive in environments with diverse cultures and races with no problems.
  • ISTPs are extremely loyal and protective of those they love and cherish.
  • ISTPs are adaptable and spontaneous, they respond to what is immediately before them. 
  • They usually have strong technical skills and can be effective technical leaders. 

Conclusion

This blog looked at the personalities that are most compatible for relationships with the ISTP. It discussed what the ISTP wants and doesn’t want in relationships. It further defined the ISTP personality and outlined their characteristics.

The most compatible personalities with the ISTP are the following:

  • The INFJ
  • The ESTP

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Frequently Asked Questions: ISTP relationship compatibility

How does an ISTP show love?

ISTPs feel most loved when their partners compliment them on their ability to solve problems quickly, practically, and creatively with the limited available resources in hand. They also enjoy having their crafts or handiworks complimented and appreciated by their partners.

What are ISTPs attracted to?

ISTPs are attracted to people who are confident and comfortable in their skin. Someone confident and in control of their emotions is extremely attractive for the ISTP. They are also drawn to originality, sincerity, and people who are forthcoming about what they want.

Are ISTPs talkative?

No, ISTPs are silent and do not like socializing and speaking unnecessarily.

What do ISTPs find attractive?

ISTPs are attracted to people who are confident and comfortable with themselves. Usually, someone who is confident and in control of their emotions and does not overreact or talk too much. They are also drawn to sincerity and originality.

Who Should an ISTP date?

Research shows that the ISTP’s natural born type is the ESTJ or the ENTJ. Because they are introverted they are best matched with a partner whose personality is Extroverted.

Are ISTPs smart?

Yes, ISTPs are highly intelligent and possess great mechanical skills and mastery over crafts and trades. 

References

‘ISTP: the logical pragmatist’, (2021)   Retrieved from https://www.mbtionline.com/en-US/MBTI-Types/ISTP/Relationships

Leslie Francis & Susan Jones, (2000), ‘Psychological Type and Happiness: A Study among Adult Churchgoers’, Journal of Psychological Type, Vol 54, pp 36-41. PDF

Divya is currently a Clinical Psychology Trainee in a Master of Philosophy program and holds a Master’s in clinical psychology. She has a special interest in Personality studies and disorders, having researched the subject before, and Neuropsychology; with an additional interest being Mood disorders. She likes to write about Psychiatric issues, having worked in multiple specialty setups during her time as a clinical psychology student, and in her free time she likes to cook and read.