ISTP Love Language (A 3 point guide)

This blog post will address the question “What is the love language of an ISTP?”, it will briefly discuss what an ISTP looks for in a romantic relationship, give a description of the five love languages and discuss the love language of an ISTP.

A love language refers to the different ways that people can express and receive love between and among each other.

 These ways differ from person to person, in this blog the focus is on the love language of an ISTP personality type. Research has identified that Quality time, Physical Touch, and Acts of service are the primary love languages of an ISTP.

What is the Love Language of An ISTP? 

The following are what ISTPs enjoy the most out of the five love languages.

  • Acts of service
  • Quality time
  • Physical Touch

Acts of service.

ISTPs deeply appreciate it when assisted in their projects, duties, and obligations. They feel loved when a person shows consistent interest in their business with the intent to help them out. 

They are very preoccupied with their business and personal activities as they place a high priority on their independence. So if a loved one helps them achieve their objectives they will feel loved and cherished.

Quality Time

ISTPs enjoy it when their loved ones spend time with them despite their tendency to be quiet and detached when in the presence of others.

 They enjoy being alone most of the time, but when they do care for someone they do not mind sharing their personal space or time. This helps them create meaningful experiences and memories with people and bond with the ones they love.

Physical Touch

ISTPs are highly kinesthetic and are very hands-on in everything they do. They hold regarding information they receive through their five senses. 

It is no surprise that physical touch is one of their love languages. Because they are not very wordy they also express love by touching others.

An ISTP In Love

To be happy, comfortable, and stay committed in a romantic relationship the ISTP usually desires the following conditions:

  1.  They cannot do the same for a long time because they are not routine-oriented individuals. Therefore, they desire relationships with people who indulge in a plethora of activities and events. Therefore, the relationship must be full of new experiences so that they do not get bored or lose interest.
  1.   ISTPs are very hasty and most of their actions are unpremeditated, they desire a relationship with a person who understands and accepts that about them. A person who can match that energy by equally being spontaneous is ideal for them.
  1. ISTPs seek independence as they are inclined to try new things, embark on various personal projects, and live by their own rules. Therefore, a partner who does not mind this about them would be ideal.

ISTPs are naturally introverts and so need to be alone from time to time to get energized. They are the type to want to be alone even when they have someone by their side.

Understanding The Five Love Languages

The concept of the five love languages was originally developed by Dr. Gary Chapman, these are simply five unique ways that people can express and receive love between and among each other. These are:

  • Words of affirmation

These can be words of praise, appreciation, flattery, kindness, compliments, or encouragement. Some people feel loved when they are recipients of words that affirm them.

  • Quality time

This refers to the act of a person spending time with another person. Some people feel valued when this is done for them.

  • Receiving material gifts

Others feel valued and appreciated when material gifts are purchased or made for them. These may include, clothes, jewelry, shoes, cars, and whatever material things they desire.

  • Acts of service

Acts of service refer to favors, assistance, or a contribution to the day-to-day life of an individual. These may include things like helping someone with their chores, picking up dry cleaning, and generally any form of assistance.

  • Physical touch.

This refers to physical contact and is more about intimacy. It could be holding hands, laying your head on your partner’s shoulder, or simply a hug. Some individuals feel loved when their loved ones touch them and make physical contact with them.


This blog answered the question “What is the love language of an ISTP?” It briefly discussed what an ISTP looks for in a romantic relationship, gave a description of the five love languages, and discussed the love language of an ISTP. An ISTP’s primary love languages are Quality time, Physical Touch, and Acts of service.

If you’ve enjoyed the ”ISTP Love Language” you should take a look at ”How to win an ISTP heart” too.

Frequently Asked Questions: WHAT IS THE LOVE LANGUAGE OF AN ISTP?

How does an ISTP show love?

ISTPs feel most loved when their partners compliment them on their ability to solve problems quickly, practically, and creatively with the limited available resources in hand. They also enjoy having their crafts or handiworks importantly complemented and appreciated by their partners.

What are ISTPs attracted to?

ISTPs are attracted to people who are confident and comfortable in their skin. Someone confident and in control of their emotions is extremely attractive for the ISTP. They are also drawn to originality, sincerity, and people who are forthcoming about what they want.

Are ISTPs cool?

Yes, ISTPs are considered to be the coolest. They have a calm and collected disposition, but they also have a spontaneous side which people like and make them cool and fun.

Are ISTPs dominant?

No, ISTPs usually mind their own business and have no interest in controlling others as they are usually preoccupied with their business.

Can I be both ISTP and INTP?

No, it is not possible to be both simultaneously.

Are ISTPs talkative?

No, ISTPs are silent and do not like socializing and speaking unnecessarily.


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Richard Bentall, (2003), Madness Explained: psychosis and human nature, Penguin, London. PDF

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