ISTJ and ISFJ (A complete guide)

The blog is about ISTJ and ISFJ, under which it has answered the main question of the blog ‘What is the difference between ISTJ and ISFJ?’  and further explained ways in which an ISTJ and ISFJ relationship can work.

What is the difference between ISTJ and ISFJ?

Differences

 
ISTJISFJ
Stands for introverted, sensing, thinking and judging Stands for introverted, sensing, feeling, and judging
Thinking Function Feeling Function
Keen eye for detail, loyal and dependableCareful, hardworking, and practical individual
Depend on logic more to work Instincts and feelings to work
Happy in spaces that are well structured, organized and allow them to feel in control and needed by others Love harmonious environments, and they are always working to make sure everyone gets along and are at peace with each other
Have high standards and love to work in well-structured Traditional and conservative in appearance
Offering solid life advice and logical solutions to problems Are an emotional support system and good listeners
Only, make confrontations after making sure that the facts are right and debatable upon Do not like conflicts and disagreements
Self-sacrificing Self-containing
  • ISTJs acronym stands for introverted, sensing, thinking

 and judging. ISFJ acronym stands for introverted, sensing, feeling, and judging

  • ISTJ individuals have the Thinking function, so they are more concerned about the facts whereas ISFJs have the Feeling function which is all about understanding other people’s emotion and feeling 
  •  ISTJ has a keen eye for detail, loyal and dependable on others while ISFJ is a careful, hardworking, and practical individual 
  • ISTJ use logic to work and are bound to follow rules while ISFJ habitually like to help others and consider peace as their priority
  • ISTJs depend on logic more to work while ISFJs rely on instincts and feelings to work
  • ISFJs love harmonious environments, and they are always working to make sure everyone gets along and are at peace with each other whereas ISTJs are happy in spaces that are well structured, organized and allow them to feel in control and needed by others
  • While making decisions, ISTJs are attached to methodical logic by understanding the relevant facts and information on the table whereas ISFJs, other people’s feelings and previous experiences are vital in making decisions.
  • ISTJ individuals have high standards and love to work in well-structured and organized environments and explains why they are always well polished and perfectly groomed. They usually have a well-set schedule and routine whereas ISFJs are more traditional and conservative in appearance 
  • ISTJ friendships are more of  about offering solid life advice and logical solutions to problems even though it might take them a while to be comfortable with someone  while ISFJs friends act as an emotional support system and good listeners, they also do not mind overextending themselves emotionally with their friends even though they may not be open with their friends about their feeling and emotions
  • ISFJs do not like conflicts and disagreements and may prefer to keep the anger to themselves this is because of self-doubt about if they have the right to be angry while an ISTJ may make a confrontation after making sure that the facts are right and debatable upon, so they are well collected and rational when handling a conflict
  • ISFJs may be too self-sacrificing while ISTJs may be too self-contained 

Similarities between ISFJ and ISTJ

  • They both work quietly with the intent to focus on details
  • They both need structure and stability to feel happy
  • The very thoughtful while making decisions
  • They usually care a lot about their outer appearance and they always try to try to look good
  • Both take friendships very seriously and are willing to go an extra mile in building a bond with their partners and may tend to ignore minor issues that may arise in their relationships
  • They both are intelligent with organizational skills
  • They both tend to hold back their emotions even when irritated or in any unpleasant situations
  • They are introverts who prefer to work behind the scenes
  • They are logical, practical, and dependable
  • They are not angry personalities they are however jovial and more drawn into their personal space
  • They value their personal space
  • They may tend to be hesitant to change and may have difficulties adapting to change

How can ISTJs and ISFJs make a relationship work?

An ISTJ to an ISFJ:

  • Be objective and logical when trying to convince your partner while putting your feelings aside
  • Do not always take everything personally even though your partner may seem insensitive
  • Providing full facts and information to your partner that they can base on
  • Respect your partner’s need for a traditional setting and do not try to change unless necessary
  • And when this change is necessary, provide enough time and space for your partner to adjust
  • They should be considerate of ISFJ by consistently sharing positive affirmations about them
  • They should also be considerate of ISFJ’s emotions by being gentle and patient with them when resolving a conflict
  • ISTJ should try and open with an ISFJ, this is because ISFJs find it easy to trust an ISTJ who is free and open with their feelings

An ISFJ to ISTJ:

  • Always try to be a good listener without judging or criticizing 
  • Try as much to spend quality time with your partner and showing small kind gestures
  • In stressful moments, be supportive and helpful to your partner
  • Always remember the small details about your partner like their birthdays
  • Be open with your partner by sharing your feelings without being asked first.
  • ISFJ’s should also try to be rational while addressing issues around ISTJs without being overly emotional
  • ISFJ’s should be able to address conflicts in a calm and collected manner as it is okay to have disagreements with your partners
  • They should thoughtful when working with an ISTJ

Conclusion

The blog has answered the question ‘what is the difference between ISTJ and ISFJ?’ and further explained ways how ISTJ and ISFJ can make a relationship work.

Frequently asked questions: What is the difference between ISTJ and ISFJ?

Are the INFJ and ISTJ compatible?

There are no MBTI personality types that are perfectly compatible with each other. There will always be some issues that arise or indifferences between the pairs, and it’s upon the pairs to work out their indifferences and make a relationship work, same as INFJ and ISTJ

Can ISTJ marry an ISFJ?

As much as two grown-ups of any personality type can make a healthy relationship. It should also be noted that ISTJs natural partners are ESFP or ESTP. This is because introverted sensing is best matched with extroverted sensing

What are ISTJs attracted to?

ISTJs are attracted to confidence, capability, intelligence, and independence from other persons. A person who knows what they want in life and can stand true to their convictions.

What makes ISFJ happy?

ISFJ feel happy when they are of assistance to others who may need their help in solving a problem

What are the manipulative techniques or tricks of an ISTJ?

ISTJs are probably the least manipulative personality type among all of them. They tend to opt for avoidance, silent treatment, shaming, and guilt-tripping.

Reference:

ISTJ vs ISFJ, the difference between these two personality types; https://www.onlinepersonalitytests.org/istj-vs-isfj-the-difference-between-these-two-personality-types/

Building the ISTJ-ISFJ Relationship- personality central: https://personality-central.com

ISTJ and ISFJ relationship- crystal; https://www.crystalknows.com

Divya is currently a Clinical Psychology Trainee in a Master of Philosophy program and holds a Master’s in clinical psychology. She has a special interest in Personality studies and disorders, having researched the subject before, and Neuropsychology; with an additional interest being Mood disorders. She likes to write about Psychiatric issues, having worked in multiple specialty setups during her time as a clinical psychology student, and in her free time she likes to cook and read.