INTP Women (A 4 Point Guide)

In this guide we will be examining women with INTP personality types. We will look at how this category of people are unique and why they are often misunderstood by those around them. 

INTP Women 

INTPs are a rare personality type. And INTP women are even rarer. They go against gender-based norms for women. The ideal female as deemed by society is akin to the ESFJ personality type, who is poised, delicate and sociable. Women who are INTPs and INFPs are very different from this ideal type. 

INTP women with their poor social skills and odd and specific interests can find it difficult to fit into society. Because they stand out so much, INTP women face unique challenges.  But INTPs are meant to stand out. Their unique blend of logic and creativity needs to be channelled into new discoveries, inventions and development. 

INTP women are often overlooked or underestimated based on their outward appearance and behaviour. They are usually seated at the back of the room lost in their own thoughts. They appear calm and dress simply and are often overlooked in a crowd. 

They are often scatterbrained and absent-minded because of the millions of thought processes buzzing in their brains. They tend to be laidback and easy going people. Although they don’t usually take up leadership roles, they are not followers either. They prefer to be their own independent entity.

Although careers in science and technology are usually recommended for INTPs, they can thrive in any career field, as long as it continues to interest them. Their energy and inspiration tends to arrive in bursts, which makes them less suited for a conventional, 9-5 desk job. They require freedom and constant intellectual stimulation. 

INTP women are sometimes viewed as completely emotionless people. This goes against the general societal view of women as highly emotional. However, in reality, INTPs do feel. In fact they feel so much at times, that they withdraw distance themselves from others. They appear cold and detached because they are trying to protect their vulnerability.

INTPs, unlike a lot of other personality types, don’t depend on others for validation. Although they like to be respected, they don’t feel the need to impress others. Their rather dry sense of humour and lack of enthusiasm can be misinterpreted and put people off. 

INTP females can feel like they’re swimming against the tide throughout their lives. In order to survive it is necessary for INTPs to acknowledge and embrace their strengths. They need to make friends with different kinds of personality types who can help rub some of their corners off. Although it can take time, INTP women need to find people who understand them and reach out to them especially in times of stress. 

INTP (The Thinker):

The INTP is a rare personality type. It makes up about 3-5% of the population. Additionally, INTP women are even rarer, making up less than 2% of the female population. INTPs are logical and analytical individuals. They are good at resolving logical as well as abstract problems. They love exploring ideas and theories and are often responsible for new findings or discoveries in their fields of interest.

INTPs struggle when it comes to understanding and expressing their emotions. They tend to view life from a purely logical perspective, and this can interfere with their interpersonal relationships. 

Struggles of INTP Women:

Emotional Expression:

Society expects women to be good at articulating and expressing their emotions. This is why INTP Women can face difficulties, because they usually find it difficult to share their feelings. This can hamper their interpersonal relationships. Because of this difficulty communicating their feelings, INTPs don’t share what they are feeling with their partners instead expecting the other person to simply ‘figure it out’.

Structure and Organisation:

INTPs are comfortable in a chaotic environment. They are quite absent-minded and have a tendency to be messy. Mundane tasks such as housework or paying bills are not the INTP’s cup of tea. This again goes against the societal stereotype that women are supposed to be neat and organised people. 

Appear Inauthentic or Confusing:

Because INTP women don’t fit the social standards for women, they can often be perceived as being fake or trying to get attention or stand out by pretending to have peculiar tastes. 

Lack of concern with Physical Appearance:

Society expects women to be concerned with how they present themselves. However, INTPs usually spend less time attending to their hair, make-up or clothes.

Relating to other Females:

INTPs desire deep, philosophical discussions with people. Thus, they are at a loss when it comes to making small talk. This can make it difficult for them to interact with strangers or start new relationships. 

Being in Group Settings:

Group settings are difficult for INTP women, who tend to be awkward when they are around other people. Due to their difficulty with small talk and other struggles, they come across as aloof and distant. 

What makes INTP Women Different

Logical Minds:

INTP women, as well as INTPs in general, tend to view the world through a lens of uncompromising logic. This can make them feel very different from the people around them, who don’t always view things from the same perspective. 

This feeling of alienation is particularly severe for INTP women, because society doesn’t look fondly on women who espouse logic. They constantly feel the pressure to be more emotion-focused or feminine. INTP women are naturally intelligent people, constantly striving to analyse and understand the world. While this trait would ideally be admired, it is frowned down when it manifests in INTP women. 

Independent:

INTPs need time alone to process the world around them. INTPs need more alone time than most other introverts. Although they enjoy long discussions with other people, they prefer to spend most of their time on their own. This independence can be beneficial since it helps INTPs women be self-sufficient. 

People are used to being around women who lead with their emotions. This stereotype can be an issue for INTP women, especially those who haven’t developed their feeling function well. This can lead to problems in their friendships and romantic relationships since most people expect women to have a natural connection to their feelings and the capacity to express them. 

Defying Expectations:

INTP women, and INTPs in general, dislike being forced to cater to society’s expectations. They prefer to do things in their own way and at their own pace. Although it can be difficult, most INTP women rise to the challenge of standing up for themselves and doing what they believe is right. They make the most of their uniqueness and resist other people forcing their opinions on them. 

Pros and Cons of Dating INTP Women

Pros:

  • Fiercely independent: INTP Women are not dependent on others nor do they try to control people in their relationships. They stay true to themselves and allow other people to do the same.
  • Simple and low-maintenance: INTP Women don’t resort to manipulation or mind games. They are direct and less demanding on their partners.
  • Problem solving: INTP Women are excellent at solving problems 
  • Creative: INTP Women are creative and imaginative. They are an endless source of new ideas.
  • Knowledgeable: INTP Women are always learning and expanding their knowledge of the world and themselves. They can make very intellectually stimulating company. 
  • Sense of humour: INTP Women have a quirky and unique sense of humour.

Cons:

  • Detached: INTP Women may have a tendency to be cold and emotionally unavailable. They are often lost in their own thoughts. 
  • Spontaneous: INTP women are not very organised or structured and this can be irksome to their partners.
  • Difficulty with small talk: INTP Women don’t like small talk and can often drift off or stop paying attention when others are talking to them.
  • Fear of commitment: Owing to their desire to be independent, INTP Women find it a little difficult to commit to a relationship.

INTP Women Development:

From a young age INTP Women display high levels of intelligence. They think deeply about things and are fiercely independent. Because gender roles are enforced from a young age, INTP Women face difficulties with fitting in from their childhood years. The INTP Woman’s teenages and pre-teen years can be the most tumultuous periods of their lives. This is when they tend to rebel most, but also when they grow the most. 

Although they are highly intelligent people, INTP Women have troubles dealing with the social and sexual aspects of their lives. They can sometimes be naive and find it difficult to fit into the real world. As INTP women become more mature, they develop their feeling function and become less impersonal. 

Conclusion:

In this guide we examined INTP Women. We looked at some struggles INTP Women face and some misconceptions about them. We looked at how this personality type functions in relationships and how they develop over the years. 

If you have any questions or comments, please let us know. 

FAQ on ‘INTP Women (A 4 Point Guide):

What are INTPs bad at?

INTPs find it difficult to empathise with people. They are less in touch with their Fe (feeling) function and tend to neglect emotions which can hamper their interpersonal relationships.

Who are INTP attracted to?

INTP are attracted to people who are intellectually stimulating. They also prefer people who are a little different from them, such as charming, outgoing and adventurous individuals.

Are INTPs socially awkward?

INTPs are often considered the most socially awkward personality type in the MBTI. However, this is usually because they are often misunderstood by others.

Who should an INTP marry?

INTPs have natural partners in INFJ, ENTJ and ESTJ. The Extraverted Thinking/Feeling function that is dominant in some of these personality types complements the Introverted Thinking function that is dominant in INTPs.

Why are INTPs attractive?

Some of the reasons that people are attracted to INTPs are their honesty, open-mindedness and imagination. They display an almost childlike enthusiasm when they’re exploring or learning something new which can be endearing to others.

How do INTPs show affection?

INTPs show their affection or love for a person with the same intense curiosity they reserve for other things they are fascinated by. They usually spend a lot of time getting to know another person or ask a lot of questions to find out more about them. 

References:

https://www.truity.com/blog/intp-female-highly-misunderstood-group

https://personalityjunkie.com/06/intp-females-autobiography/

Divya is currently a Clinical Psychology Trainee in a Master of Philosophy program and holds a Master’s in clinical psychology. She has a special interest in Personality studies and disorders, having researched the subject before, and Neuropsychology; with an additional interest being Mood disorders. She likes to write about Psychiatric issues, having worked in multiple specialty setups during her time as a clinical psychology student, and in her free time she likes to cook and read.