INTP and ISTP relationship (3 Tips)

This blog discusses the viability of the INTP and ISTP relationship. It will discuss what both personalities want and do not want in a relationship. It will also define both personalities and outline their characteristics. 

What is the Viability of an INTP and ISTP relationship?

The following are the key aspects of the INTP and ISTP relationship:

  • Both are Thinkers
  • Drama free relationship
  • Both are Perceivers
  • Both are Introverts

Both are Thinkers

The ISTP and INTP both have the Thinking function, therefore, they have very similar decision-making processes and a common view of the world.

They both focus on concrete and factual information and are not inclined to theories or concepts. This tends to make them very objective and impartial people. 

This makes them very accommodating of other people and their views. This commonality ensures that all decisions are made through objective means leaving little room for argument.

Drama free relationship

Their Thinking function also impairs their ability to be responsive to their own emotions and the emotions of others.

As a result, the INTP and ISTP rarely have emotional outbursts and arguments with anyone about petty or menial issues. They also rarely take offense.

These two can therefore have a drama-free relationship with no worries of offending the next person with words or actions.

Both are Perceivers

The ISTP and INTP Perceiving function allows them to have an open and explorative mind that is focused on future possibilities and options.

These two exploratory thinkers can visualize and plan their future together. They can also brainstorm ideas and projects that they can carry out together.

They would both enjoy being with someone who is more on par with their explorative type of thinking.

Both are Introverts

The ISTP and INTP are both introverts. This means that they both need to spend time alone to recharge and energize.

This is advantageous to their relationship as they can both agree to have dates at home and not have to explain their need for space.

Additionally, they both enjoy peace, and slow-witted is something only introverts can give each other.

What ISTPs want in a relationship

To be happy, comfortable, and stay committed in a romantic relationship the ISTP usually desires the following conditions:

  • They desire relationships with people who indulge in a variety of activities and events. Therefore, the relationship must be full of new experiences so that they do not get bored or lose interest.
  • ISTPs desire a relationship with a person who understands their impulsive nature. A person who can match that energy by equally being spontaneous is ideal for them.
  • ISTPs seek independence as they embark on various personal projects and live by their own rules. Therefore, a partner who does not mind this about them would be ideal.
  • ISTPs are the type to want to be alone even when they have someone by their side because they are introverts.

What ISTPs do not want in a relationship

ISTPs do not want the following things in a relationship:

  • They do not want a dramatic and overly emotional partner. They prefer a relationship that is peaceful and easy to manage minus so much drama and problems.
  • They do not like clingy partners who will follow them everywhere and stick to them like glue. They want their space and independence.
  • They do not like routine-oriented relationships in which they are always doing the same things and going to the same places. 
  • They do not like relationships that are very demanding of their time and energy. They are people who are constantly preoccupied with their business and they don’t want to get overly involved in such things.

What INTPs want in a relationship

To be happy, comfortable, and stay committed in a romantic relationship the INTP usually desires the following conditions:

  • They desire a partner who embraces their curious and investigative mind and habits. INTPs always question everything and they want someone who accepts that about them.
  • They want to be with someone who can keep up or try to keep up with their genius. They do not like slow witted people who take forever to understand concepts.
  • INTPs are the type to want to be alone even when they have someone by their side because they are introverts.
  • INTPs desire a relationship with a partner who understands their natural inclination to just overthink everything and possibly help them tone it down.

What INTPS do not want in a relationship

  • They do not want a dramatic and overly emotional partner. They prefer a relationship that is peaceful and easy to manage minus so much drama and problems.
  • They do not like clingy partners who will follow them everywhere and stick to them like glue. They want their space and independence.
  • They do not like relationships that are very demanding of their time and energy. They are people who are constantly preoccupied with their business and they don’t want to get overly involved in such things.

The ISTP and INTP personalities

The ISTP personality

ISTP stands for Introverted, Sensing, Thinking, and Perceiving. It is a personality type on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator.

Such an individual gets energized by spending time alone (Introverted) and is mainly drawn to routine-oriented details over theories and beliefs (Sensing). 

They make decisions by methods of critical analysis and logical reasoning (Thinking). They are more impulsive and adaptable rather than planned and routine-oriented (Perceiving).

The INTP personality

INTP stands for Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, and Perceiving. It is one of the 16 personality types described by the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). 

People who identify as INTP are often described as quiet and analytical. They enjoy spending time alone, thinking about how things work and coming up with solutions to problems.

Characteristics of both ISTP and INTP personalities

ISTP characteristics:

  • ISTPs like to take things apart and see the way they work
  • They’re good at logical analysis, solving practical problems and concerns
  • They are graced with a strong ability of reasoning
  • ISTPs have a daring spirit and embrace challenges and are attracted to adrenaline spiking activities
  • ISTPs are prone to becoming bored and uninterested very quickly if they keep doing the same thing.
  • ISTPs are introverts so they spend a lot of time alone and don’t enjoy social activities and being in crowds.

INTP characteristics:

  • They are complicated.
  • They are vague.
  • They are very detail-oriented.
  • People have a difficult time understanding them or their needs.
  • INTPs value their privacy.
  • Do not like to attract any unnecessary attention. 
  • Their introverted nature compels them to avoid crowds and people.
  • INTPs do not do well in mundane and repetitive tasks but thrive in constantly changing environments. 
  • They are autonomous.
  • Do not like to be micromanaged. 
  • They struggle with expressing their emotions. 
  • INTPs live inside their minds which are full of imagination and excitement.
  • They lack the necessary motivation to form and maintain relationships. 
  • INTPs are not sensitive to other peoples’ emotional feelings and needs. 
  • They are secretive
  • They tend are very faithful 

Conclusion

This blog discussed the viability of the INTP and ISTP relationship. It discussed what both personalities want and do not want in a relationship. It also defined both personalities and outlined their characteristics. 

The following are the key aspects of the INTP and ISTP relationship:

  • Both are Thinkers
  • Drama free relationship
  • Both are Perceivers
  • Both are Introverts

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Frequently Asked Questions: ISTP and INTP

What are ISTPs attracted to?

ISTPs are attracted to people who are confident and comfortable in their skin. Someone confident and in control of their emotions is extremely attractive for the ISTP. They are also drawn to originality, sincerity, and people who are forthcoming about what they want.

Are ISTPs talkative?

No, ISTPs are silent and do not like socializing and speaking unnecessarily.

How do you annoy an INTP?

You can annoy an INTP by doing the following things:

  • Ignore their opinion
  • Completely ignoring facts
  • Disturb their much needed alone time
  • Bossing them around
  • Being loud and talkative
  • Forcing them to socialize.

What do ISTPs find attractive?

ISTPs are attracted to people who are confident and comfortable with themselves. Usually, someone who is confident and in control of their emotions and does not overreact or talk too much. They are also drawn to sincerity and originality.

Who is INTP compatible with?

The INTP’s natural partner is the ENTJ or the ESTJ. The INTP’s dominant function of Introverted Thinking is best matched with a partner whose personality is dominated by Extraverted Thinking

Who are INTPs attracted to?

INTPS are attracted to someone outgoing and fun because they are different from them.

Who Should Have an ISTP date?

Research shows that the ISTP’s natural born type is the ESTJ or the ENTJ. Because they are introverted they are best matched with a partner whose personality is Extroverted.

References

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Divya is currently a Clinical Psychology Trainee in a Master of Philosophy program and holds a Master’s in clinical psychology. She has a special interest in Personality studies and disorders, having researched the subject before, and Neuropsychology; with an additional interest being Mood disorders. She likes to write about Psychiatric issues, having worked in multiple specialty setups during her time as a clinical psychology student, and in her free time she likes to cook and read.