INTJ compatibility (A Complete Guide)

In this article, we will discuss INTJ compatibility. We will do that by describing how INTJ’s cognitive functions affect their romantic relationships. Furthermore, we will discuss their compatibility with all personality types. In the end, we will describe INTJ personalities as romantic partners and as parents.

INTJ compatibility 

INTJ personalities have compatibility and are able to connect well with partners who are similar to them including ISTJ, INTP, and INTJ personalities. They may also be compatible with INFP, INFJ, ENTP, and ENFJ personality types based on a few similarities and some differences. The relationship of INTJ with ISTP, ESTP, ESTJ, and ENFP is complementary in nature. These types of personalities may not get along initially and find that both of them are quite different. However, with time they may learn to appreciate each other’s differences and grow as a person. Finally, INTJ may have difficulty connecting with ISFP, ISFJ, ESFP, and ESFJ. This is because these personalities are in conflict with each other especially since they have different values.  Relationships with these personalities may pose as a challenge and could be difficult to sustain unless both people spend time and effort in getting to know one another and find effective ways to understand and overcome their opposing approach towards life.

Role of INTJ functions in romantic relationships

An INTJ is one of the 16 types of personalities given by Myer Brigg type indicator based on Carl Jung’s theory. INTJ personalities are introverted, intuitive, thinking, and judging personalities. They have a unique approach to dating and romantic relationships.

Since INTJs are predominantly intuitive and thinking personalities, they are natural at being assertive. However, they know how to be passive when the situation requires it. They may be perceived by others as lazy and apathetic. They focus a lot on their perception and perceive information in the form of impressions. They are good at communicating with others verbally and are able to express their knowledge and insights in an articulate manner. They do however have trouble in expressing themselves through writing. So, in romantic relationships, they do better in face-to-face communication rather than texting or long-distance relationships.

They are comfortable sharing their ideas and seek people who are compatible with their minds.

Since these personalities focus more on their thoughts rather than feelings, people may perceive them to be straightforward and mechanical in romantic relationships. They might also have a know it all demeanor which can make them seem arrogant and put off their romantic partner.

Furthermore, they are brutally honest which can affect their romantic relationships in a negative way since they are not too sensitive to the feelings of others nor do they make efforts to maintain peace. They can do well in intimate relationships if they try to be more sensitive and soft in their approach. Their rigidity and inflexibility in their opinions make them the dominant partner who values being right.  So, in conflicts with their romantic partners, if they realize their mistakes, they are open to changing their perspective and admitting they were wrong.

These personalities make an effort to understand others better so that they can perform better in their romantic relationship. This can include them seeking help from self-help strategies or reading about psychology and relationships. They might however have a tendency to attribute difficulties in their relationship to their partner’s psychological problems rather than focusing on their own shortcomings. They do not intend to hurt others, it’s just that their way of communicating lacks tact. Instead of focusing on diagnosing their partner, they should evaluate themself first and overcome their weaknesses.

INTJs value the uniqueness and individuality of others. They prioritize helping the weak and stand up for their rights. This can include contributing to making the world a better place by helping the homeless and needy. They might have the Savior complex based on which they try to fix others and assist them in overcoming their traumas. However, in the process, their own relationship becomes a problem that needs fixing.

Apart from that, these people are loyal to their partner and their family and make an effort to invest love, time, and energy into it. INTJs may have trouble in the financial aspect of their romantic relationship. The alternate in their approach towards handling money. At one point, they see it as a means to access the pleasures of life and desire money, status, power, and wealth. However, at the same time, they may feel like money compromises their interests and integrity. They do not go for shiny things unless they know it has depth and quality. Occasionally, they can be found in financial dilemmas in which they are in conflict with what they want and their personal sense of integrity regarding the process of getting it.

INTJ compatibility with other personality types

We shall discuss the compatibility of INTJ personalities with all other types of MBTI and list down potential ideal and challenging personalities as their partner.

INTJ compatibility with similar personalities

INTJ may connect with ISTJ, INTP, and INTJ personalities. It is highly likely that these personalities share common interests, values, and overall the same approach to life. Furthermore, they can build an easy rapport and share a good connection with a lot of commonalities. There is no guarantee that their relationship will be perfect due to their similarities since like every other couple, they will have their disagreements.

INTJ compatibility with slightly different personalities

INTJ may connect with INFP, INFJ, ENTP, and ENFJ personality types based on a few similarities and some differences. Due to this, these people may find each other attractive and interesting. They spend their time getting to know one another and discover sides that are different from them. Relationships like these are more balanced since they have a blend of commonalities on which both of them can bond and also differences based on which both personalities can learn and challenge each other.

INTJ compatibility with complementary personalities

INTJ may have a relationship with ISTP, ESTP, ESTJ, and ENFP that is complementary in nature. When these personalities meet each other, they may not immediately connect. However, if they spend time getting to know each other, they will discover that they have similarities and certain aspects that they can learn from each other that would help both partners grow as a person.

INTJ compatibility with opposite personalities

INTJ may have difficulty connecting with ISFP, ISFJ, ESFP, and ESFJ. This is because these personalities are in conflict with each other especially since they have different values, motivations, and approaches towards life. They might find it difficult to relate to each other. However, these relationships provide the most room for learning and growth. The strengths of these personalities are actually lacking in INTJ and vice versa. So, if they establish a relationship with these personalities, they can learn to be more balanced and mature. 

INTJs as Romantic partners

An INTJ makes a loyal partner who is self-sufficient and independent. They adopt a scientific approach to choosing their partner and might have a list of requirements. Since they are clear about who and what they want from a relationship, they stay committed to finding the right person.

These people are always ready to improve themselves and grow. Accordingly, they encourage their partners to pursue their goals as well. They are not needy in terms of affection and romance. Rather, they are more focused on hard work and problem-solving rather than being too attentive and lovey-dovey.

Their communication style is straightforward and based on logic. They remain calm most of the time and are unconcerned about being liked or appreciated. They communicate in a strategic and clear manner and express their insights articulately. They are planners who usually focus on improving their future.

Their partners may find it hard to understand them since they do not open up emotionally and see feelings as irrational and unpredictable. They make good partners with people who appreciate their insight, independence, and problem-solving tendency.

As parents, INTJs are supportive and encouraging of their children. At the same time, they have firm limits and punish them if the situation requires it. They follow a structure in their home and reinforce their children to stay within it. They are supportive and let their children decide what they want to do. Their focus is to rear them to be competent and self-sufficient.

FAQs: INTJ compatibility

Why are INTJs weird?

INTJs may seem weird or strange to others because they are overly logical and factual in their approach. They can be blunt and straightforward irrespective of the context which makes them seem weird or awkward to others. 

Who should INTJs marry?

INTJs should marry ENFP or ENTP. This is because their dominant introverted intuitive function is best matched with a partner whose dominant function is extroverted intuition. However, they can enjoy a good relationship with other personality types as well. 

 Can INTJ be sensitive?

INTJ personalities are not usually sensitive, especially at an emotional level. However, they can be sensitive to noisy environments and huge crowds. In short, external stimuli can be overwhelming for them and it will overstimulate them. Because of this, they need time alone from people to recharge.

What does INTJ find attractive?

INTJ personalities are attracted to people who are sincere and confident. They like people who share their interests and can communicate with them about their passions.

Conclusion

In this article, we discussed INTJ compatibility. We found that INTJ personalities have compatibility and are able to connect well with partners who are similar to them including ISTJ, INTP, and INTJ personalities. They may also be compatible with INFP, INFJ, ENTP, and ENFJ personality types based on a few similarities and some differences. The relationship of INTJ with ISTP, ESTP, ESTJ, and ENFP is complementary in nature. These types of personalities may not get along initially and find that both are quite different. However, with time they may learn to appreciate each other’s differences and grow as a person. Finally, INTJ may have difficulty connecting with ISFP, ISFJ, ESFP, and ESFJ. This is because these personalities are in conflict with each other especially since they have different values.  Relationships with these personalities may pose as a challenge and could be difficult to sustain unless both people spend time and effort in getting to know one another and find effective ways to understand and overcome their opposing approach towards life.

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Citations

https://www.truity.com/personality-type/INTJ/relationships

https://personalityjunkie.com/intj-relationships-dating-love-compatibility/

Divya is currently a Clinical Psychology Trainee in a Master of Philosophy program and holds a Master’s in clinical psychology. She has a special interest in Personality studies and disorders, having researched the subject before, and Neuropsychology; with an additional interest being Mood disorders. She likes to write about Psychiatric issues, having worked in multiple specialty setups during her time as a clinical psychology student, and in her free time she likes to cook and read.