INFJ compatibility (A complete guide)

This blog is about INFJ compatibility, under which, several other questions relating to the topic of the blog are going to be discussed to deeply understand the topic. 

What is the relationship (compatibility) between INFJ and other personality types?

There are 4 ways through which an INFJ can be compatible with other personality types.

  • Kindred spirits 
  • Intriguing differences 
  • Potential complements
  • Challenging opposites 

Kindred spirits 

INFJs share the same values, interests, and general approach to life with some personality types below, even though they won’t agree on several things, there’s a guarantee they will always get along because they share so much in common.

INFJ + INFP = THE HEALER

INFJ + INFJ =THE COUNSELOR

INFJ + ISFJ =THE PROTECTOR

INFJ + ENFJ =THE TEACHER

Intriguing differences 

The INFJ finds people of the personality types below special, interesting, similar, and attractive even though there might be some key differences, they however have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

INFJ + ISFP   =THE COMPOSER

INFJ + INTP =THE ARCHITECT

INFJ + INTJ =THE MASTERMIND

INFJ +ENFP =THE CHAMPION

Potential complements

Although people of these types may not attract INFJ initially, their relationship, however, presents a lot of potential in complementing and learning from one another. 

INFJ + ENTP = THE VISIONARY

INFJ + ENTJ = THE COMMANDER

INFJ +ISTJ   =THE INSPECTOR

INFJ +ESFJ=THE PROVIDER

Challenging opposites 

People of the following personality types, to an INFJ, may seem impossible as they are so different and present the most potential for personality clash and conflict, though at the same time provide the best growth opportunities.

INFJ + ESTP = THE DYNAMO

INFJ +ISTP = THE CRAFTSMAN

INFJ +ESFP =THE PERFORMER

INFJ +ESTJ =THE SUPERVISOR

What does INFJ mean?

INFJ according to Myers- Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) can be translated to mean (introverted, intuitive, feeling, and judging). Persons with this personality type have creative, gentle, caring qualities.

They are highly idealistic and sensitive always contemplating the meaning of life while thinking about the future.

Due to the qualities they possess, they are sometimes known as the “Advocate” or the “Idealistic”

They are very few people that exhibit this personality type and three percent of the population are INFJs.

They are the idealists who strive to see change, translate their ideas into actions rather than just preaching about it

INFJ is the opposite of the ESTP personality type.

How to know your partner is an INFJ?

INFJs are honest, outspoken, and empathetic due to their emotional understanding of others. They also strongly believe in their intuition and can act rationally and decisively to get want they want

They are introverts therefore most of the times, they are in their own company recharging new ideas, but if they mean to trust people in their spaces, they tend to form strong and meaningful connections 

With their idealism quality, INFJs are always striving to make a better place for others through taking actions rather than the word of mouth.

They are also decision-makers in nature while deciding. INFJs put so much attention on personal issues rather than objective plans.

How are INFJs like in a relationship (characteristics)

  • INFJs are warm, caring, and affirming partners
  • When they trust their partner, tend to seek out and promote relationships that prove to be meaningful
  • They strive for the perfect relationship
  • Some tend to move from one relationship to another searching for the perfect partner
  • They are usually so invested in the relationship and strive to make it strong
  • Because of these qualities, they are usually loved and treasured by those in relationship with them
  • They are always searching for a long-term relationship with a partner but unfortunately never find them.

What are the weaknesses and strengths of an INFJ in a relationship?

Strengths

  • INFJs are empathetic and sensitive to the needs of their partners
  • Determined to be in a long-term relationship 
  • INTJ individuals have high expectations and hopes for themselves as well as their partners. This could be both a weakness and a strength.
  • They are warm and affirming to their partners
  • They have excellent communication skills particularly in written
  • They sometimes plan and focus more on the future with their partners
  • They make good listeners
  • INFJs usually value those who are close and hold deep relationships
  • They are always thinking and trying to understand the meaning of life
  • Once they realize they can’t continue with a relationship they are in, they quickly call it quits and move on to another 

Weaknesses:

  • They tend to be overly sensitive
  • INFJs are difficult to understand sometimes mostly when they want to be alone.
  • They tend to be high expectations and hopes for their relationships
  • They are stubborn and tend to hold back apart of themselves
  • Do not like conflicts or confrontations with their partners 
  • They struggle with practical day to day living for instance they are not good at handling money

What is the relationship like of an INFJ with people?

As a parent

“you are the bows from which children are the living arrows are sent forth…

Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness.

For even as He loves the arrow that flies,

So, He also loves the stable bow.”  -Kahlil Gibran

INFJ parents are warm and caring. Their goal is to help their children become independent and to be able to differentiate between good and bad

They let their children make their own decisions and support their choices or correct them where they may feel the decision could be destructive to them.

INFJ parents tend to vest so many hopes and expectations in their children which at times could be so demanding because some expectations are not possible to attain.

And when these expectations are not reached, they may get stressed out.

INTJs take parenting so seriously and tend to make a lot of sacrifices for their children without thinking it through.

They also strive to transfer their values and principles to their children.

Children to INFJ remember their parents as inspirational, caring, warm, and patient with them.

As a friend

They do make time friends but cannot compromise their love and attention for their families over friendships

INFJs always seek closure, authenticity, and deep connection with friends. Friends who can support their ideas and values

They would rather spend time socializing with family members rather than hang out with friends because they have little patience for friends who pretend to be honest and they are not

People are usually drawn to INFJs but do not place so much attention on it

INFJs are usually treasured by their friends for their warmth and consideration and their ability to care for others, motivate and inspire their friends to be the best they can be

As a lover

  “To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive – to grieve, sorrow, and disappointment, as well as joy, fulfillment and an intensity of consciousness we did not know, was possible before.” – Rollo May.

INFJs are warm, caring, and considerate partners who feel intense love for their significant other.

They like when they receive word of affirmations from their partners, it will be appreciated because they enjoy showing the same love to their partners

INFJs always want the perfect relationship goals and constantly work to achieving it

INFJs see intimacy as a form of spiritual fulfillment and therefore embrace these moments to bond with their partners.

INFJs natural partners are ENTP or ENFP. This is because dominant introverts are best matched with a dominant extraverted intuition.

Conclusion.

The blog has been about ISFJ compatibility, but it has further answered several questions relating to the topic. Therefore, more details on the characteristics, strengths, and weaknesses of an INFJ in a relationship were discussed.

Frequently asked questions

what types are least compatible with INFJ?

INFJ is least compatible with ISTJ, ISTP, ESTJ, ESTP. All these are Sensory thinkers who share almost if not the same cognitive functions.

Why are INFJs so private and mysterious?

They are introverts and love to keep private with their thoughts however they are not mysterious to those who are close to them.

Are INFJs the most submissive personality type?

No, they are not as they are introverts who choose to pull strings behind the curtain to speak

Is a quiet/shy/reserved INFJ a fake INFJ?

INFJs are introverts who may take longer to be comfortable around new people until such time they feel they can trust those around them.

References

INFJ Relationships; https://www.personalitypage.com 

INFJ Relationships & Compatibility with other personalities; https://www.truity.com

Divya is currently a Clinical Psychology Trainee in a Master of Philosophy program and holds a Master’s in clinical psychology. She has a special interest in Personality studies and disorders, having researched the subject before, and Neuropsychology; with an additional interest being Mood disorders. She likes to write about Psychiatric issues, having worked in multiple specialty setups during her time as a clinical psychology student, and in her free time she likes to cook and read.