5 Amazing ENTJ secrets (A guide)
In this brief guide, we will look at 5 amazing ENTJ secrets and also discuss some other things about the ENTJ personality, like famous ENTJ people and what ENTJ in love might look like.
What is an ENTJ?
The ENTJ is a personality type in the Myers Briggs Type indicator and ENTJ stands for Extraverted, Intuitive, Thinking, and Judging and these people are said to be great leaders and great thinkers, and they have excellent action-oriented thinking processes.
The ENTJ personality is probably best known for being direct and to the point, and they can also be very good at mobilizing people and resources.
The ENTJ is also in possession of great talents in policymaking or making plans; at the same time, they may also be great at the execution of things and show great skill in coordinating and sequencing events, and bringing their strategy to life.
They also make good leaders, whether they lead small groups, work projects, or countries, like Margaret Thatcher, the ENTJ is as good at helping others reach their goals as they are at doing for themselves and they can bring forth the forces required to bring the plans into action.
Here are some of the greatest ENTJ secrets that will help you get to know this somewhat intimidating personality a bit better.
ENTJ Secret 1: They are Sweet
The biggest ENTJ secret is probably that they can be rather soft-hearted and sweet, even though they are so logical and work minded.
The introverted feeling function of the ENTJ means that they are very set in their own values and beliefs, but also that they may not necessarily be super in touch with their feelings, but at the same time, they are very oriented to the outer world and this means that they have the capacity to be very sweet people.
ENTJ Secret 2: They are Honest
The biggest ENTJ secret is that despite what the typical ENTJ villains like Frank Underwood would have you believe, the usual, normal ENTJ is actually very honest, or rather, blunt would make more sense.
The ENTJ has no use for intentional secrets; sure they might not want to discuss certain aspects of themselves outright, but that is less for the need to be mysterious, and more due to the fact that they see it as a waste of time; the time they could spend teaching you something worthwhile or sharing their goals with you.
ENTJ Secret 3: They are Loyal
Again, it should not be such a big ENTJ secret, but they are fiercely loyal to people and things they believe in, likely due to the fact that they lay such value in their own belief systems and traditions.
The ENTJ will defend you and stick by you when you most need them, and they can use all their skills and abilities to help you in a way no one else can.
ENTJ Secret 4: They are Insecure
ENTJ wouldn’t want you to know this secret, possibly, but the truth is that they may actually be quite insecure on the inside, and try to achieve so much and constantly keep going so they don’t have to stand p to the insecurity that drives them.
Of course, the cause for this insecurity may differ from person to person, but usually in high pressured and analytical people like ENTJ, especially if they have a similar intuition function that picks up on abstract things and internalizes them as concepts or references for the future, there can be high degrees of mismatched information and wrong schemas, which may, of course, include insecurity.
ENTJ Secret 5: They have trouble showing emotions
Okay, this may not be such a big ENTJ secret, well, clearly they have some problem with emotions, but you may not know that it is less to do with not feeling emotions, and more with just not benign able to express them.
The ENTJ feels things as much as others, but it may bother them too, the fact that they are just not able to show exactly how they feel, and they may find alternate ways to do so.
If you know an ENTJ or are in a relationship with one, you may want to try this quiz, so you can both figure out what to do to get a sense of how you feel about each other.
If you’re facing this, it may be a good idea to seek the help of a therapist or other mental health professional. You can find a therapist at BetterHelp who can help you learn how to cope and address it.
Things ENTJs Say
If you want to get a sense of some real secrets about ENTJs, consider these things ENTJs say on forums like Reddit, about themselves, and other things that matter to them.
One user, for instance, says about their expression and their attitude, on a blog:
“People mistake my resting face for a “you know what” face. Sorry, you’ve got it all wrong. It’s actually my ‘I hate all of you idiots and can’t wait till I dominate this world’ face.”
This may be a thing many ENTJs may want to say, but they have not been able to, and people may in fact often find the ENTJ kind of intimidating.
Some other things ENTJs say on this blog are:
“It’s not that I don’t care about your feelings, it’s that I don’t know how. You have no idea how psychologically difficult it is for me to consider things from an emotional perspective. Please try to understand.”
“I have a wide circle of acquaintances, but I only consider three of them as “friends”. I have a problem with lying, I do it all the time, instinctively, it’s become a habit now. I might be a sociopath. Most of the stories I tell are made up to make myself sound more interesting, which attracts more followers–cough–I mean people. Hey, I may be a sociopath, but at least I’m a charming sociopath.”
“I hate it when people view me as incompetent. So when I’m learning something new like playing an instrument, I feel obligated to learn on my own before learning with others.”
“People seem to always think I’m on top of things- that everything’s under control. They don’t see the moments of chaos I endure and try to sift through internally when trying to keep things under control- the fact that in order for me to be successful at it, I have to bury my feelings. And then they wonder why I appear so cold… everything comes at a price.”
“I like being the villain. I am never nasty/a “you know what” on purpose, I am just an honest person, even if it means being brutal. I often get called heartless, which isn’t true, and people find it easy to blame things on me because I am ‘heartless’. I don’t take it, and whenever somebody has annoyed me I distance myself from them, which I consider the most mature way to deal with it, instead of being angry or childish. I don’t like to apologize for the things I haven’t done. Who does?!”
A user on Reddit says on a question about whether ENTJs are machiavellian:
“I used to think the ends justify the means, that’s why I had “whatever it takes” mindset. But, after losing a couple of people that are very dear to me and almost myself as well, I do not think these beliefs are the only best way to go about my life going forward. I don’t know yet of what would be a better way than these, but these aren’t it.”
ENTJ Relationship Problems
ENTJ is a difficult personality to pin down sometimes, but it is also important to remember that they are not as cold or calculating as people and media portray them to be; still, the ENTJ can have their share of relationship problems, so let us explore what mistakes ENTJs make in relationships and what problems they may have.
The first mistake many ENTJs make in relationships is not communicating well enough, which causes a lot of relationship problems for the ENTJ.
A relationship becomes problematic when there is faulty communication, and ENTJs are infamous for not being too open with their emotions and they may not be able to express as much as they would like.
Another mistake that may lead to relationship problems for the ENTJ is not taking their Partner’s feelings seriously, as they are no able to understand how deep the problem may be.
It is not that ENTJs don’t care, or think your problems are insignificant, they just mentally operate from a place of logic and objective analysis over feelings and values, and therefore face issues when feelings are involved in a major way.
The ENTJ may also have relationship problems because they are often uncomfortable dealing with emotions and this may cause them to dismiss other people’s feelings, not out of malicious intent, just as something that the partner also should not waste time on.
A massive factor for relationship problems with an ENTJ is the fact that they can sometimes be a bit condescending.
Again, this is not something the ENTJ does on purpose, but of course, it causes relationship problems because a relationship is supposed to be equal, and the ENTJ can sometimes behave like they are somehow superior.
This usually happens because the ENTJ is extremely sure of their ideas and they place all their faith and belief in the logic of their conclusions.
The ENTJ is used to being the trailblazer, and they are constantly lauded for their original insights into the future.
Suddenly they have someone in their life who deserves and seeks the same things, but they may not know it well enough yet, especially if it is a new relationship.
Additionally, they can be somewhat insecure too, and this may cause them to want to impress you with their wit and intelligence, so if it is possible, try to see it as a compliment instead of letting it cause problems.
When the ENTJ seems like they are condescending, tell them as much, but also keep in mind that they are likely being that way because they want you to appreciate their ideas and intellect.
ENTJ Famous People
There are many famous ENTJ people, given the tendency of this personality type to end up in powerful positions.
Some of the all-time famous ENTJ people are:
- Harrison Ford
- Margaret Thatcher
- Quentin Tarantino
- Napoleon Bonaparte
- Carl Sagan
- General Norman Schwarzkopf
- David Letterman
- Douglas MacArthur
- Winston Churchill
- Julius Caesar
- George Clooney
- Angela Merkel
- Mustafa Kemal Ataturk
- Bill Gates
- Warren Buffett
- Steve Jobs
- Jack Welch
- Jay Leno
- Patrick Stewart
- Sheryl Sandberg
Here is a list of some great ENTJ characters in fiction:
- Frank Underwood (house of cards)
- Irene Adler (Sherlock)
- Light Yagami (Death Note)
- Harvey Spector (Suits)
- Hatsumomo (Memoirs of a geisha)
- Jean Luc Picard (Star Trek)
- Fish Mooney (Gotham)
- Cutler Beckett (pirates of the Caribbean)
In this brief guide, we looked at 5 amazing ENTJ secrets and also discuss some other things about the ENTJ personality, like famous ENTJ people and what ENTJ in love might look like. Please feel free to reach out to us with any questions or comments you may have.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs): ENTJ Secrets
What are ENTJs attracted to?
ENTJs are most attracted to confidence, and to someone who is not too dramatic.
ENTJs can also be extremely attracted to a sense of pride and a quiet tendency with a hard-working attitude.
However, the ENTJ will not be attracted to someone who tends to be obnoxious about their achievements, they are attracted to the kind of confidence that is subtle and well-founded.
What hurts an ENTJ?
Not being in control of their actions is something that can hurt the ENTJs.
If the ENTJ feels like they have not done something without thinking enough about it first, it can hurt them a lot.
Can Entj fall in love?
Yes, ENTJs can fall in love, and in fact, they can love more deeply and intensely than most people, and they are fiercely loyal in love too.
An ENTJ in love is a precious thing, because they value and believe the person they are holding onto. Love means a lot to the ENTJ when they have it, and when the ENTJ is truly and really in love, they will leave no stone unturned to show it to the one their lover.