This article will look at the personality types of ENTJs and INFJs and determine the compatibility they have in a number of areas like communication, conflict resolution, stress management and how they behave differently or similarly in various situations like that of work, homelife and social gatherings.
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The compatibility between ENTJs and INFJs is not very strong. Although a relationship between the two may be a tough one where there are many challenges, it would be immature to say that the two personality types do not gravitate towards each other!
The article will explore what is it that results in the differences between the two personality types and demonstrate that despite the clear gaps, opposites still attract!
First, each personality type must be understood in its own capacity in order to see what it is that causes or prevents their compatibility.
ENTJs – The Commanders
Yes they are bold and strong and make great leaders as they are decisive and value accomplishment! These individuals often bring together people for a united cause by using their charisma and confidence that projects a certain authority people admire!
When it comes to the strengths of these personality types, ENTJs are self confident and energetic. They not only believe in themself but do so with much determination and commitment. They are efficient and strong willed which gives them an extra boost to achieve that they set out to gain and hence impress their followers.
These individuals possess the ability to charm whomsoever they meet and inspire them with their motivation, commitment and desire to accomplish their goals.
On top of all that, these individuals possess the ability of strategic thinking. Yes they are smart when it comes to planning; they are able to scrutinize the plans they are willing to uptake and improvise whenever required! They are good handlers of crisis situations and can navigate their way out of things.
It would not be immature to say that all these strengths are indeed accompanied by some weaknesses. To achieve much, commanders can sometimes become stubborn and impatient. They are so strong willed that they often refuse to listen to others who might think they need to give up something or wait a bit longer for the right time!
They have a firm belief in what they want to achieve to the extent they consider it pure of any imperfections hence people may consider them arrogant.
At the same time, regardless of their great thinking skills, commanders are unable to regulate their emotions well which may attribute a certain amount of instability to their personal lives.
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INFJs – The Advocates.
These personality types are a bit different from the typical ENTJs we just discussed! The typical INFJs have a very thoughtful approach to life where they are absorbed in their creativity, values, deep thinking and inner vision!
Although they aim high and have a sense of creating the perfect world, they are not blinded by their idealism and realize they need to take concrete steps in order to make the world reflect their inner vision of it where people have justice and are treated well. They like to stand up for others and connect to them on a deeper level.
They focus on their thoughts – they are creative, have deep insights and are passionate about what they believe in!
They want to create the perfect world and here their creativity comes into play. With such an imaginative pattern of thought they are able to find diverse solutions to an array of problems people face. This is combined with their principled thoughts that allows them to remain consistent, get through difficult times and serve as an inspiration for others.
These people are prone to burnout. They struggle much to create the world they aim to live in however this comes at the cost of them working so hard they may tire themselves out!
These people are very sensitive to criticism. They reflect on it deeply to the extent that it may reduce their productivity and make them feel as if they lag much when in reality that criticism is targeted at a specific element. This may also be because of the fact that they aim to become perfectionists – aiming to be the best version of themselves.
As they are quite sensitive, these people are reluctant to open up and may be difficult to understand – this can sometimes create problems in relationships where people are curious to learn more about the other.
The Compatibility of ENTJs and INFJs.
The following areas will be discussed in order to determine the strength of compatibility between the two personality types of ENTJs and INFJs:
- Conflict Resolution
Communication is never an easy topic for any two people and this is also the case for the two personality types under discussion. The ENTJ is a type that is quite assertive, bold and likes to speak about whatever is coming to their mind. They will spend less time thinking and more time voicing out whatever it is that comes to their mind.
The INFJ, on the other hand, is not very comfortable opening up especially on sensitive topics although they do talk on topics that are extremely important to them with people they hold close. However, at times, even when the situation calls for it, these people may shut out others completely.
This discrepancy between the two types is one that must be recognized in order to tackle. The difference in how both communicate with each other or the ease with which they communicate may elicit strong or negative emotions in the other. It is possible the ENTJ becomes frustrated as they are willing to discuss a topic openly while the INFJ may refuse to do so. To accomplish smooth communication, both parties must be cognitive of the differences and requirements of each.
INFJs usually stay quiet when conflict occurs. They may prefer to avoid it rather then address it whereas ENTJs on the other hand may take it as an opportunity to open up, express their views, handle any gaps between them and their partner and also have the ability to leave the discussion as soon as they entered it. INFJs may hold onto it for some while if it offended them in even a small manner.
Issues they fight on differ. While INFJs prefer to maintain harmony, they will be pushed to fight if their deep help values are at stake. The ENTJ will become aggressive if they feel something is hampering their progress; their purpose is to create change and make sure it takes place.
Both identities have their own way of expressing themself during conflict. Once an INFJ is disturbed from their usual place, they may take on a very scary demeanor which is usually not suitable to them – they will become stubborn, assertive and take an offensive mode. ENTJs on the other hand are not aware of sensitivities; they go on to say what they feel or think regardless of what or how the other person is processing it.
To effectively counter conflict, both parties must be aware of the sensitive points of others; they must know what it is the other person needs at the moment and be willing enough to put their needs aside or step out of their comfort zone to please or satisfy their partner and eventually get along.
The INFJ is one that can be described as a thinker and inventor. They love to focus on complex ideas that are unique, useful and practical all at the same time and they will put much effort into coming up with the perfect plan. However, this may tire them at times.
The ENTJ is more about practical steps however this does not mean they dont love complex ideas too; they value strategy and good ideas but once they think a plan is good to go then no more thinking and only work!
INFJs are good managers in that they plan out everything very well. They have the ability to inspire people to follow and believe in them and hence will oftentimes be the one who people elect to follow. ENTJs have the desire to lead and be at the front so even if they are not elected they will put themself at the place of leader and drive people with their motivation and commitment to achieve goals.
The article looked at the compatibility of two personality types, the INFJ and the ENTJ, by addressing their strengths and weaknesses and how they manage different elements of their life and what steps must they take in order to ensure they are compatible enough to live together in a smooth manner.
Frequently Asked Questions: ENTJ & INFJ
Are INFJ and ENTJ compatible?
Your values are in harmony and so are your goals but how you conduct yourself in certain matters will always create friction.
Why do ENTJs like INFJs?
It is possible because they share the same mission, goals or values that creates some sort of relation or connection between them.
What do ENTJs think of INFJs?
ENTJs and INFJs are both intuitive and feel and judge however one is extroverted while the other is introverted. ENTJs may view INFJs as quiet and reserved!