This article will take a look at the enneagrams that are considered to be at the top of the list when it comes to cheating and extra marital affairs. The article will also introduce these enneagrams in detail and highlight some of their traits so the readers understand why they make it to the top when it comes to being the unfaithful and crappy partner who is bent on ruining things for everyone.
Family CounselingFamily CounselingEnneagrams That Are Most Likely To Cheat – The Top 3
This guide will take a look at the enneagrams that are most likely to cheat:
- Enneagram Type 3
- Enneagram Type 7
- Enneagram Type 8
Let us take a look at these one by one!
The Achiever – Type 3 Enneagrams
A type 3 enneagram is also called the ‘Achiever’ because of their desire that drives them to accomplish the big things in life. They are very hard working; putting in much time and energy in their work in order to achieve the success they desire!
These individuals are known to be very confident and have high levels of self efficacy, determination and the will to compete with others. However, they are also concerned about how others think of them and their image in the public which is sometimes very stressful.
When their personality integrates, usually because their fear has taken over or they are experiencing failure at multiple fronts, the type 3 enneagram’s darker traits come to life.
If they are insecure and feel humiliated, they will try to ensure that others do not succeed either so that others feel it was the situation that caused the failure and not the person themself. If it gets serious, they can become obsessive with ruining things for others especially if it reminds them of what they could not achieve. If they can’t have happiness then no one should!
These individuals are extremely conscious of how they appear to others and if they feel under-recognized they will make desperate attempts to grab the attention of others. They will develop a habit of exhibitionisn and arrogant talk that is centered around their strengths and successes.
The basic desire of an Achiever is to feel valuable and worthy of attention. They want others to know about their achievements and appreciate them or show them recognition in some way. People with this type usually define the term success according to others views and opinions and they work towards this so called success to gain respect and status in the society. At their best, fulfilling their desire of being the top performer, type 3s are well known and regarded amongst their peers and they are considered sources of inspiration. This is exactly what the achiever desires. At this point, they encourage others and help them move towards their dreams.
The basic fear of type 3 enneagrams arises from not achieving what they desire deeply. They want to be worthy of the love and recognition of others; they want to achieve great things that benefit or impress people and hence be celebrated by them. However, deep down, they have this fear that they may fail and not achieve their dreams or successes and this scares and depresses them especially when others are excelling in their life and the eyes of others. This inculcates a sense of jealousy in type 3 enneagrams.
If you’re facing this, it may be a good idea to seek the help of a therapist or other mental health professional. You can find a therapist at BetterHelp who can help you learn how to cope and address it.
Bad Traits – Relationships
Here are the bad traits that are concomitant to a type 3 enneagram entering into a romantic relationship!
Difficulty Acknowledging Their Role
This enneagram type may have a hard time acknowledging their role in a relationship. They may feel at times they are not liable to carry out certain tasks such as being their for their partner, giving them the answers they need or simply giving up something they love to do to spend more time with their partner – especially when they need them!
Having such a relationship crisis can be difficult especially for the partner. It throws them into confusion and if the type 3 enneagram does not acknowledge their role in the relations, it could as well mean that the relationship might soon come to an end or become very unhealthy.
This may be one of the reasons they are likely to cheat!
Becoming someone who is emotionally vulnerable is difficult. You are scared, hurt or confused to the extent that you are not emotionally stable enough to handle a relationship. This is something that can take a toll on anyone; not only the type 3 enneagram but their partner too.
It is important that the type 3 enneagram ensures they know what it is they want in a relationship and communicate it to their partner. This is important to ward off any insecurities, fears or problems they might have. If their partner agrees then the type 3 enneagram will definitely be comfortable going forward. However, if their partner does not agree then it may not be a very good idea to take the relationship forward!
Enneagram Type 7: The Enthusiast
These individuals are versatile and spontaneous! They have a lot of energy in them and they like to be in high spirits! However, by continuously working themselves out, they can get tired and become exhausted and hence lose focus. They will become distracted and lose track of the goal they had in mind. It is obvious then that they have problems with impulsiveness and impatience.
Overall, these individuals are joyful and cheerful and that is what they emanate when they are around others. At their best, they want to focus on worthy goals that use their talents and strengths.
These enneagrams have been called enthusiasts because of the energy with which they approach the things in life that catch their eyes! They are like children who have a lot of energy, optimism and curiosity about the things that seem interesting to them. Furthermore, they are intelligent not in the sense of academics but in a way that they can process a lot of information and hence brainstorm in an effective manner.
However, their ability to read and process much information and hence learn new skills can sometimes confuse them about what they are actually meant to do in life!
The basic fear of this enneagram type is to be in pain. They absolutely hate pain and they do not want to be deprived in any manner. They will avoid situations where they might get hurt emotionally or physically because they do not want to deal with the experience or feeling of pain. However, because of this fear, they often miss out on worthwhile experiences.
However their fear of missing out does encourage them to take up routines that are not too structured and allow for last minute plans. They may even be unable to focus much on the task at hand because they are looking for a more interesting experience – one that will make them let go of what they are doing and scramble outside for some fun!
To be satisfied and fulfilled or content is the desire of this enneagram type 7. They want to feel complete and whole so that they do not have to rely on anyone else for their needs. It is also linked to their fear of being in pain and deprived. Hence, they strive to fulfill their needs in an independent manner and wish to be in a state that renders them safe.
At the same time, they do not want to miss out on joyful, stimulating and awesome experiences from life! They want to be part of the fun and seek excitement and joy from what they are doing. They want to feel happy and this leads them to oftentime justify or rationalize their negative feelings in a way that they are responsible for how they feel – even if it isn’t their own fault!
Bad Traits As Partners
Unable To Commit Or Settle Down
Yes, the type 7 enneagram finds it hard to commit or settle down for the long term. Not only does this seem like a difficult decision but they are not willing to take the risk so fast. They want more time and sometimes too much time!
One of the reasons this could be the case is because of their fear. They may not want to commit to someone for the long term because of the fear that they may get hurt emotionally. Hence, they do not want to put their trust in another person and get too attached or dependent on them.
Unable To Face Negative Conversations
Although the type 7 enneagram is all into the relationship they are a huge part of – of course – they have a hard time engaging in difficult or negative conversations. A lot of times two people need to have difficult conversations to keep the thing going; this may entail talking about one’s fears, attitudes the other person does not appreciate or mistakes made in the past. If one keeps on delaying these types of conversations, the relationship is bound to have problems!
Do Not Pay Attention
Sometimes the type 7 enneagram can have problems in paying attention to what their partner says! They may be in the habit of not being able to concentrate or get lost in the words that are coming out of their partner’s mouth. This is not a good quality to bring in a relationship because it will inevitably lead the other person to believe their words have no value!
Hence, the type 7 enneagram must improve when it comes to their listening skills!
Enneagram Type 8: The Challenger
This enneagram type can be described as confident, confrontational, decisive and assertive as well. They do not hesitate to voice out their opinions or take a stand for what they firmly believe in. Furthermore, these individuals are focused on what they want and will not stop at anything when it comes to achieving their goals or desires.
However, although they are resourceful and generally straightforward people, these enneagram types are affected by their ego and can be dominating when it comes to being around other people. They want to have what it is that makes them feel complete or whole and as we said they will do anything in their power to get it!
At their best, they will be very generous especially because of the number of resources they usually possess and use their power and influence to make the lives of people better. However, they sometimes have issues in controlling their temper and become vulnerable or expose their weak points.
All in all, this enneagram type is indeed ambitious and won’t stop at anything from achieving its goals. This deep desire to be successful and independent is also derived from their fear of being controlled or manipulated by others which is likely to happen if they are not strong or independent enough!
These are the two things that drive the enneagram type 8:
- The Basic Fear
- The Basic Desire
The Basic Fear
When it comes to enneagram type 8, their basic fear is to be controlled or manipulated by others to the extent that they end up hurting themselves. They want to be independent and in control of their own lives. What they fear is being exposed or vulnerable so that someone can take advantage of the power or influence they have over the enneagram type 8 individual.
As a result of this fear, they avoid being helpless in situations and try to stand up for themselves all the time – this could be one reason why they ensure they are so resourceful and independent! However, if they are scared enough, they will avoid situations where they feel vulnerable.
The Basic Desire
Of course their basic desire stems from their fear of being controlled! The type 8 enneagram wants to be in control of their own life. They do not want to live in the constant fear that they will be manipulated or influenced by another being! As a person, they want to be able to take decisions for themselves and hence they are passionate about standing up against injustice not only against their own being but that of others! They understand how it feels to be powerless and hence do not want this for anyone else either.
The Bad Traits – The Challengers
In this section, we will look at bad traits the type 8 enneagram brings to the relationship they are in!
Yes, the type8 enneagram is emotionally vulnerable because they get quite attached to the person they are involved with and may even put aside their emotions to cater their needs and insecurities.
Hence, in relationships the type 8 enneagram may be vulnerable to more emotional harm than the average person is.
Lack Decision Making
In relationships, the type 8 enneagram often lets their partner make the decisions for them because they not only trust their partner too much but also they want to show their partner how much they are willing to listen to them. This is not advisable in a relationship of any sort because every person has the right to think for themself!
This article took a look at the enneagrams that are mostly likely to cheat and introduced them in detail and highlighted their bad traits.
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