7 ENFP Secrets that you Need to Know (A list)

In this brief guide, we will look at a list of 11 of the ENFP personality’s most amazing secrets and some other things about the ENFP personality, like features and Famous ENFP people.

What is an ENFP personality?

The biggest secrets of the ENFP personality is in the name; these are extroverted, intuitive, and feeling-oriented people who like to be around others and tend to gather as much information as they can through their perception function and more than thinking about things in a logical and analytical way, they tend to keep feelings and values at the forefront.

The ENFP is known for their highly-valued based system where they always stick to their guns and don’t compromise on their ideals for anything, while at the same time being incredibly nice to other people and making sure people don’t get hurt.

The ENFP personality also cannot keep secrets and they are not the type to be mysterious and cunning, they tend to be very open and honest with everyone because it is how they like to be treated.

Perhaps the biggest open secret about the ENFP personality is that they can be quite introverted despite the extroverted nature of their dominant function, and this personality type can be quite interested and keeping to themselves and doing their own thing.

ENFP Characters

When studying a personality type, it can be super helpful to do a character study of a fictional character, and for this reason here is a list of ENFP characters that may help you understand this personality type better:

  • Ariel (the little mermaid)
  • Nymphadora Tonks (Harry Potter)
  • Elizabeth Bennet (pride and prejudice)
  • Jo March (little women)
  • Genie (Aladdin)
  • Marianne Dashwood (Sense and Sensibility)
  • Carrie Bradshaw (Sex and the city)
  • Joyce Byers (Stranger things)
  • Peeta Mallark (The Hunger games)
  • Clementine Kruczynski (eternal sunshine of the spotless mind)
  • Willy Wonka (Charlie and the chocolate factory)
  • John Willoughby (Sense and sensibility)

Famous ENFP People

Here is a list of famous ENFP people who may give you a better idea of what to look for in a typical ENFP person as well as some atypical ENFP people:

  • Walt Disney.
  • Matthew Gray Gubler.
  • Oscar Wilde.
  • Mark Twain.
  • Charles Dickens.
  • Brian Cox(physicist)
  • Sandra Bullock.
  • Michio Kaku
  • Andy Kaufman
  • Ellen Degeneres
  • Ricky Gervais
  • Jerry Seinfeld
  • Gwen Stefani
  • Ozzy Osbourne
  • John Lennon

ENFP Secrets

Here is a list of some of the best-kept ENFP secrets that will help you get to know them better.

  • They can have serious anxieties even though they are extroverts and love people. They may exude confidence and have eye contact and no inhibition at times, but they can be somewhat introverted when it comes to their anxieties.
  • They can be very good at hiding the turmoil of emotions inside them, which can even bother them sometimes, but they can project an image of calm and happiness on the outside even if they feel bad inside.
  • They don’t go challenging norms and rebelling on purpose, it is just who they are.
  • They have extreme belief in their own values and feelings and rarely go against them.
  • They can be quite dreamy and fantasy loving.
  • ENFPs don’t always feel like being charming and nice, sometimes they have to work at it.
  • ENFPs are quite All-or-Nothing, and they go all into anything, and when they get out they get all out.

Let us discuss some ENFP secrets in detail now that we have had a glimpse into this personality.

ENFP Secret 1: Belief system

ENFP’s biggest secret is that they put a lot of value in their own belief system and feelings, and they believe in themselves over everything and anything else.

ENFPs have as their auxiliary function the cognitive function of introverted feeling, which means that they have a set of values that they strongly adhere to. 

In addition, the ENFP is an intuitive personality type with intuition as their dominant function, which means that they are constantly on the lookout for deeper meaning in their environment, and their belief system helps them navigate in this quest.

ENFP Secret 2: All-or-nothing

All or nothing is actually a cognitive distortion as well, but in this case, we are not referring to the kind of all or nothing thinking that is found in Depression, rather just a tendency that the ENFPs have to go all-in for anything that they do, which is another secret of the ENFP type.

Introspective partners may be good for ENFP relationships, as they bring balancing energy to the ENFPs overzealous one, and someone like INFJ or INTJ would do very well in an ENFP relationship, and vice versa.

ENFP Secret 3: Intuitive and Odd

ENFPs also have another secret, they are a little bit weird.

We don’t mean in a derogatory way, or in a way that they behave in odd manners, it’s just that the ENFP has a major zest for life and everything in it, and they may have a new life plan every five minutes.

The ENFP may also contradict themselves one minute and be secretive the next, while yet another day they may suddenly talk about things they just never have before, and this is all due to the fact that they have extraverted intuition, and their brain is constantly picking things up from the environment around them and they are instinctively noticing things they have not thought about before.

ENFP Secret 4: Communication

ENFP will really want you to know this secret, they love communication.

Whether it is constructive criticism or just something you like about them, this person will always care for some communication, and really, it shouldn’t be a secret, ENFP is an extrovert after all.

ENFP is also very invested in making their partner happy, but sometimes they may not go about it properly, in which case, communication will go a long way in helping them understand what you need and want.

ENFP Secret 5: Needs Routine

This may be the strangest ENFP secret so far, isn’t it? This whimsical, free-spirited wanderer likes and needs routine? Bear with us.

The ENFP has as their inferior Tertiary function of Extraverted thinking and their inferior function is an introverted sensation, which both get together to form someone who is efficient and organized, and when they are given order and structure, they can thrive very well.

In addition, order helps the ENFP deal with their chaotic and fast churning feelings function to slow down a bit, which is also very good for them.

ENFP Secret 6: Develops People Skills

This is a huge ENFP secret, they don’t have innate people skills that they are born with or anything, they develop over time as a function of their other drives and motivations.

Simply put, the ENFP has a need to be liked and they have a need to be with people, but that does not necessarily mean that they just know what to do to get people to like them and be with them.

Sometimes, you might notice this in younger ENFPs, they can go on overdoing their efforts to gain acceptance, so much so that they may feel clingy or seem insincere to those around them, but really, they are not doing this out of being attention-grabbing, they just genuinely want to be around people and they just like being this way.

The typical energetic ENFP may mellow out a bit over time though, and they might harness their love for people some other way, which may translate into these amazing people skills you may see in the adult.

ENFP Secret 7: Making Connections

The ENFP secret to being so knowledgeable about so many things and knowing such random little facts they may throw at you is because they are great at making connections between seemingly unrelated things, and this comes from their extroverted intuition function.

The Extroverted intuition function enables the ENFP to make connections in real-time, as they take in information, and they are able to create large networks of information in their minds with the clusters of information they take in constantly.

ENFP Relationships

Let’s face it, you started looking for ENFP secrets because you have an ENFP crush or you just started dating an ENFP, and you want to know this person better. That is fantastic, more people should do that because getting to know someone is better than assuming things and expecting better and then getting disappointed.

You will be happy to know that ENFP relationships are full of the same energy, vigor, and excitement that they are; never a dull moment, and always exploration and adventure.

At the same time though, relationships with an ENFP can also be somewhat exhausting because they don’t stop sometimes, and they may be very emotional at times.

The ENFP in a relationship will be extremely excited to share with their partner the plethora of ideas they have and constantly collect, and the eye-opening experiences that life has to offer and that they want to experience. 

The ENFP sees relationships as a joyous process that allows for mutual exploration and imagination and at the same time gives you a chance to connect with another person, which satisfies their deeply ingrained need to be with people and love people.

Sometimes the ENFP may be too clingy or needy in a relationship, and when they feel like you are not paying attention to them they may start to be frustrated and act out somewhat, or just be sullen and negative.

Lastly, the ENFP in a relationship can also forget to turn off the charm when they are around other people because being friendly and attention-seeking comes naturally to them and they love people, so if you are the jealous type, you may need a lot of assurance from them that they are not flirting with others or paying attention to them, they are just that friendly.

Conclusion

In this brief guide, we looked at a list of 11 of the ENFP personality’s most amazing secrets and some other things about the ENFP personality, like features and Famous ENFP people. Please feel free to reach out to us with any of your questions or comments.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs): ENFP Secrets 

Who gets along with ENFPs?

INTJ gets along well with ENFPs.

Someone with an introverted thinking or feeling function will get along well with an ENFP.

Apart from INTJ, ENFP may also get along very well with INFJ.

Are ENFPs good in bed?

Yes, ENFPs can be good in bed, as they have a lot of energy even in general, and when they have sex with someone after they have made a connection with them, they can be very good in bed because they are so happy.

Why are ENFPs so attractive?

ENFPs are so attractive because they love adventure and they are charming and people-pleasing.

ENFPs love beauty and being around people and forming connections, and as a result, they know how to present themselves well, which is another reason why they may seem so attractive. 

Citations

https://www.psychologyjunkie.com/2018/06/07/3-weird-and-wonderful-secrets-about-the-enfp-personality-type/

Divya is currently a Clinical Psychology Trainee in a Master of Philosophy program and holds a Master’s in clinical psychology. She has a special interest in Personality studies and disorders, having researched the subject before, and Neuropsychology; with an additional interest being Mood disorders. She likes to write about Psychiatric issues, having worked in multiple specialty setups during her time as a clinical psychology student, and in her free time she likes to cook and read.

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