Do Opposite enneagrams Attract? (A Guide To Enneagrams)

This article will comment on the question of whether opposites attract when it comes to enneagrams and also provide 4 examples of enneagram relationships to support the above conclusion reached.

Do Opposites Attract – Enneagrams

Yes opposites attract when it comes to the system of enneagrams just like everything else in the world. This is because having the same personality traits may result in clashes. Take an example! If there are two extroverts who love talking then how will they get along if none of them ever wants to listen but just talk?

In some cases, enneagrams that have opposite or differing personalities possess traits that take care of the weaknesses in the other enneagram. This is the case when outspoken enneagrams who have a low feeling function are understood well by those who focus more on their feelings because they are introverted and have a higher feeling function. This results in being needed and feeling understood – something that keeps the relationship going in the long term.

Hence, in this article we will provide some examples of enneagrams that may be opposite in their nature but make good couples!

The Opposing But Loving Couples – Enneagrams

Here are the enneagram couples that may be opposite in their behaviour but make a great duo:

  • The Type 1 Enneagram With 7s
  • The Type 3 Enneagram With 9s
  • The Type 9 Enneagram With 1s
  • The Type 5 Enneagram With 2s

Let us take a look at them in detail and see how they are opposite but why they make great partners for each other!

Who Is An Enneagram Type 1?

The enneagram type 1 is also known as the Reformer because of their desire to change the world for the better – they believe they are on a mission to set things right! They are rational and idealistic and can be described by the terms self disciplined, purposeful, possibly perfectionists and hold values high.

These individuals are always on the move to make things better but they have this fear that they may make a mistake. Nonetheless they strive to produce perfect output and this may make them over critical of not only their own self but that of others too. This also causes them stress and anxiety as they are worried things may not go as planned – which is usually the case when it comes to life!

People with this enneagram type know the meaning of sacrifice. They may seem very disciplined to others but they are burning with passion and desire. It’s just that they know how to keep a control on themselves but look out – they might explode anything and this will give away their image of being in control! However, this personality type has the ability to forego what it is they desire in order to achieve the greater good for all.

Types 1 & 7

In a one – seven relationship, the type 1 enneagram is attracted and amazed by the adventurous and sometimes rowdy spirit of the type 7; at the same the type 1 enneagram teaches the type 7 to stay rooted in the ground and develop a sense of purpose and direction in their life and not just go from one place to the other and only party!

Who Is A Type 3 Enneagram?

A type 3 enneagram is also called the ‘Achiever’ because of their desire that drives them to accomplish the big things in life. They are very hard working; putting in much time and energy in their work in order to achieve the success they desire!

These individuals are known to be very confident and have high levels of self efficacy, determination and the will to compete with others. However, they are also concerned about how others think of them and their image in the public which is sometimes very stressful.

Type 3 Enneagrams With Type 9s

In a three – nine relationship, the type 9 enneagram offers recognition to the type 3 who may be struggling to find some support in their help. The support that the type 9 offers to the type 3 enneagram does a great deal of stuff; not only does their insecurity go away but they are able to connect to their emotional side which they have put away and work towards their goals. The type 3 enneagram also does a great deal of good to the type 9 enneagram because they help the type 9 step into the spotlight and take some credit for the work they do!

Enneagram Type 9 – The Peacekeeper

These personalities just want everything to be okay! They desire peace and justice and will do absolutely anything to obtain this. They avoid conflict at any cost and will prefer to stay far away from it due to the suffering and pain it causes as well as the unproductive outcomes that accompany it.

The type 9 enneagram is one that fears loss and separation and they do not want to be in the bad books of anyone. This is why they are generally quite accepting and agreeable because they do not want to clash much with others even if it means not getting their point across or effectively expressing their views and why they support a certain stance!

Type 9 Enneagrams With 1s

In a Nine-One partnership, Ones hugely benefit from the easygoing nature of the Nine. Ones suffer from an intense inner critic, and the gentle, agreeable Nine can reduce their anxiety about always having to be right. Ones can impart structure and clarity to the peaceful Nine. 

The type 1 enneagram is a pushing force for the type 9 enneagram to instill good and remove evil from life and not just settle for the easy option that brings quick peace. Furthermore, the type 1 is an enneagram that brings about discipline whereas the type 9 enneagram may be somewhat casual or easy going; both of them balance each other out perfectly.

Who Is A Type 5 Enneagram?

These individuals are very much interested in learning things that are relevant to their area of interest. They will investigate its elements and try to gather as much information as they can! The enneagram type 5 is alert, innovative but secretive at the same time.

People with this enneagram type have the ability to build complex ideas and skills; this is possible only because of their focus on the specific area they are working within and their dedication to master it.

The type 5 enneagram has an innate need to learn continuously. They want more and more information and want to increase their reservoir of knowledge. It bothers them if they have an interest in a certain thing or phenomena however, they are not able to learn more about it. Their curiosity is indeed a problem for them. At the same time, this desire to learn more about their interests distracts them from other things in their life, especially the practical ones. 

Another defining trait of this enneagram type is that they want to be different from others in what they learn or study. They want to discover a new area or an area that is least researched by others. They do not want to focus on things that are common or conventional; they want to study the bizarre, unknown, beyond limits, unexplainable topics on the list!

Type 5 Enneagrams With 2s

In a Five-Two partnership, this is a true meeting of opposites. The Fives’ objectivity and strong boundaries are attractive to porous Twos, who have trouble starting boundaries. The independent Fives crave alone time and don’t always want the Twos to overextend and help, which pushes Twos to take care of themselves. In return, the people-oriented Two can add cozy domesticity and a bustling life into the dynamic 5s life.

This relationship between the parties makes the type 2 more independent while the type 5 more sensitive to feelings and a need for care and attention. Both of the enneagrams in this relationship balance each other out in a very interesting manner to the extent that though they are quite opposite, they do each other well.

Conclusion

This article took a look at whether or not opposite enneagrams attract and if they can make good partners as well as why. Then, the article shed light on some enneagram couples that may be totally opposite in how they behave but the way they complement each other makes them become a great couple!

References

https://www.typologycentral.com/threads/opposites-in-enneagram.12162/
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