Can an ESTJ be an Empath? (A guide to ESTJ personality)

In this brief guide, we will discuss the question “Can an ESTJ be an empath?”, as well as other things related to being an ESTJ and struggling with emotions and empathy.

Can an ESTJ be an Empath?

Yes, an ESTJ can be an empath, as being empathetic needs to involve having a good sense of other people and knowing how other people might react in situations, but ESTJ may not be as much of an empath as introverted or intuitive personalities like INFP or INTJ.

The ESTJ is well known for doing everything using logic and most of the time it will serve them well, but there are some times where one may need to depend more on gut-feeling, or intuition, or emotions, as logic and thinking applies very little to the complexities of human behaviour.

There are two kinds of empaths, cognitive empaths, and emotional empaths, and while the ESTJ may be a great cognitive empath, given their propensity for great thinking and so on, they may not be as great emotional empaths, but the good thing is that it can be worked on and the ESTJ can also become an empath. 

The ESTJ may sometimes want to do things that their urges or gut tells them to do, instead of what is right or what they need to do all the time or what logic dictates, as being an empath is more than just anticipating everyone else’s needs, it also means being true and real with yourself.

Sometimes an empath might find that doing something even though the risk is high and logic tells them to not do it, they may find that it works well them, and since these individuals are good at recreating things that make them feel good, they can train themselves to let go and feel sometimes than think.

The ESTJ also needs to understand that no one can apply logic to all situations, for example, falling in love is illogical, taking risks we take every day is illogical, sometimes even having fun or working yourself to the bone is illogical, but the ESTJ still might do this, so why not jump into something that goes against logic?

Being an empath and understanding others is a part of listening to feelings and intuition in the exact same manner and once the ESTJ gets used to being like that they can work towards it better.

That is not to say that the ESTJ does not have adequate emotions, on the contrary, they have very intense feelings, they just don’t know how to express it right and may often try with actions and gestures rather than words, which someone else might not get.

Most Empathetic MBTI

Empathy refers to being able to put oneself in someone else’s shoes and feel what they are feeling, it is the ability to relate to others and truly understand their suffering, and the most empathetic MBTI types are often considered to be INFJ personality types.

The reason for this is commonly assumed to be that INFJ has an introverted intuition, which when coupled with their introverted feeling function creates a person that is not only intuitive about the people around them, they can then assess that information in a way that is based in emotions and values.

The INFJ personality is known as the confidant or counsellor in some circles, and the reason for this is pretty clear, as they have the ability to feel combined with getting energy from being introspective and introverted as well as being intuitive.

Because the processing of their intuition happens internally, and not externally, which is crucial in being empathetic. 

Meanwhile, the least empathetic MBTI types tend to be people with introverted intuition or thinking heavy functions, like ISTJ or ESTJ, or any of the others.

ESTJ in Love

the ESTJ in love would be highly committed to their relationship, and this personality type may make for dependable and solid partners, who would go above and beyond to help their partners grow and prosper.

ESTJs are partners who will value and ensure stability and safety for their loved ones, and they will usually be like a rock one may depend on in their household. 

The ESTJ in love will keep in mind all the important lines that are not to be crossed and they may be deeply sentimental as they value traditions and social norms, and these people may have no troubles with things like commitment and often they may go down the prescribed paths of dating and getting married. 

The ESTJ in love is also unlikely to hold back and they will give with reckless abandon, as they don’t engage in frivolous relationships, they take the relationship, as with anything else, very seriously, and they leave no stone unturned in carrying their part of the relationship the best they can.

Because the ESTJ is generally so sentimental and driven by their values and experiences, they will view dates like birthdays and anniversaries as important milestones to be celebrated and remembered, and they will likely make a fuss.

They will also expect similar things from the partner and they will approach the relationship with logic, and the concept of “equal measures” will be very important to the ESTJ in love, and they will likely not stand to be someone who does all the heavy lifting; they expect a partnership.

The ESTJ in love or in a relationship will also make sure all the tasks and duties of the household are done properly and they will ensure order, however, they may sometimes be seen as their partners or family members as controlling or micro-managing due to this tendency.

ESTJ Love Language

A love language refers to the expression style of a person, and there is an online test for it that couples, as well as singles, can take, so it is easier to understand where your partner is coming from; the ESTJs love language tends to revolve around actions and gestures, and they like doing more than saying.

The ESTJ love language is all about receiving affection from the people they love, and they may also strongly favour Words of Affirmation, which refers to talking to someone about what one thinks of them and telling them that they are good at something and so on.

Words of affirmation express how much someone loves and appreciates the ESTJ and it is what makes them feel truly cared for and happy. 

The ESTJ may also thoroughly enjoy physical affection and they may often engage in hugging and kissing with the partner or people closest to them.

The ESTJ does not lack emotions, but they are bad at expressing them, which is why even though they like words of affirmation, which is because they are a thinking and straightforward type, their own love language is likely to be Acts of Service.

Acts of service involve doing things for the loved one, take care of their chores or things they don’t like to do, which may work ell for the ESTJ as they are known as the executives, they get things one.

One truly needs to know the love language of the ESTJ to appreciate how deep they can be, because otherwise they may be continuously thought of as cold or unloving and this may hurt them even more because they know they are not.

ESTJ Personality traits

Discussed below are ESTJ meaning and ESTJ personality traits.

ESTJ meaning

The meaning of ESTJ is Extroverted, Sensing, Thinking, and Judging and this is a personality type in the Myers Briggs type indicator, and this type is also known as the Executive.

ESTJ Traits

The ESTJ is usually private and well-guarded, so much so that they may sometimes appear somewhat introverted, which is well hidden under all the charisma and ability to get things done.

The reserved part of the ESTJ is in their emotions, which they don’t like to discuss unless they are relevant to the situation in some way, but even then they are more likely to talk about the situation itself than how it makes them feel.

​ESTJs are incredibly hardworking and end result matters most to them, which is no secret, but what is not that well known is that they also show the same dedication and devotion to people they associate with, whether it’s those they work with or their family.

ESTJs may be thought of as exploitative by others because the pursuit of their goals matters so much to them, but this is rarer than people think, in fact, the average, healthy ESTJ, will make sure they try everything else before they have to resort to unseemly approaches like exploiting people, and they usually do not have to do it, and it is certainly never their first choice.

ESTJ is also very blunt and honest and they are usually able to make sure that everything runs smoothly, and an ESTJ in an authority position can make things go very well.

Sometimes the ESTJ personality can get very arrogant about all they can do, but this is likely because their decisions turn out well so often, so they keep feeling like they’re always right, even though there is always a likelihood that they won’t be at some point.

Due to this feeling of “I’m always right”, the ESTJ can become somewhat overbearing and push their will on others, which may make the gentler personalities shiver a bit.

Here are some weaknesses of the ESTJ personality type:

  • They can be inflexible and not agree with others
  • They can be rigid about their decisions even when it becomes clear that they are not working.
  • They can be condescending.
  • They may sometimes be too serious in their pursuit of goals and get stressed out about it
  • They may sometimes be too harsh or blunt on those around them.

If you’re facing this, it may be a good idea to seek the help of a therapist or other mental health professional. You can find a therapist at BetterHelp who can help you learn how to cope and address it.

ESTJ Famous People

A list of Famous ESTJ people are given below:

  • Andrew Jackson
  • Bette Davis
  • George W Bush
  • William Henry Harrison
  • Michelle Obama
  • Sandra Day O’Connor
  • Sonia SotomayorJohn D. Rockefeller
  • Lyndon B Johnson
  • Elliot Ness
  • Sam Walton
  • Ivanka Trump
  • Megyn Kelly
  • Judge Judy
  • Rose Kennedy
  • Douglas MacArthur,
  • Bernard Law Montgomery
  • Saddam Hussein
  • Alec Baldwin


In this brief guide, we discussed the question “Can an ESTJ be an empath?”, as well as other things related to being an ESTJ and struggling with emotions and empathy. Please feel free to reach out to us with any questions or comments you may have.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs): Can an ESTJ be an Empath?

What personality type are Empaths?

Type 2 personality types in enneagram usually tend to be empaths.

This personality type may be empaths as they are usually highly sensitive, loving, and supportive.

Who Should an Estj marry?

An ESTJ should marry someone like an ISTP, as they need someone with introverted thinking to complement their own function of extroverted thinking.

The ESTJ could also marry someone like the INTP as their function stacks will also complement each other.

Which personality type is the most empathetic?

Generally speaking, the personality type that is most empathetic is INFP or INFJ.

The personality types that tend to be least empathetic are ExFP, due to their introverted feelings.


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