Can an empath feel when someone is attracted to them? (A guide)

In this brief guide, we will look at the question “Can an empath feel when someone is attracted to them?”, and some other subjects related to empathy.

Can an empath feel when someone is attracted to them? 

Yes, an empath can feel when someone is attracted to them, as being an empath means being extremely in touch with other people and their feelings, and even being able to reflect the same feelings back to them, which may also sometimes lead the other person to think that the empath is also attracted to them.

An empath is also able to tell when someone does not like them or feels angry or bitter towards them for some reason, and their empathy is not just limited to the situation of somebody being attracted to them.

The true empath may be able to pick up on cues regarding very negative feelings like self-hating, feeling worthless, or depressed, and anxious.

This trait of the empath is what leads to them being such great listeners and their tendency to be good psychotherapists is usually dictated by these abilities.

Empaths in some situations may also be able to tell what someone’s beliefs about life and about themselves may be, and they may be able to predict what someone is going to say or do and they may have a very good, even somewhat spooky understanding of what people around them want to accomplish.

While the empath is so in touch with everything around them and though the empath may know when someone is attracted to them, they may also face problems because of their traits, and they may find sometimes that they are not able to discern between their own thoughts and feelings and that of others, and it may take them years to make that distinction well.

Also, it needs to be kept in mind that when we answer a question like “Can an empath feel when someone is attracted to them?”, we are looking at the kind of empath that is solely just very empathetic, and not the other definition of an empath, which refers to someone which almost superhuman or metaphysically heightened sensation of empathy, which has not been proven scientifically and is therefore far too debatable to answer with any certainty.

A possible reason behind why an empath is so attuned to when someone is attracted to them may be the fact that these people tend to have a better perception of facial expressions and emotions, and their ability to have such empathy does not come from something unknown, but from complicated cerebral processes that exist in everyone, but tend to be more pronounced in empaths.

Can Empaths Feel when Someone is Thinking about Them?

Because empaths are usually so attuned to the world around them in general, yes, empaths can feel when someone is thinking about them, but they won’t know it when that someone is not in their vicinity or around them in some form, because this ability of empaths is laid in their brain and perception, and not something psychic.

Another reason why it may seem that the empath can feel when someone is thinking about them is that they are incredibly intuitive people, and even though they may not know it themselves, their brains are always collecting information and laying it up in their brain in the form of complicated networks.

Think of these networks as having nodes, millions of them, and they all stand for different things, as some may be about people, others about objects, animals, and so on and so forth.

Intuition works, in some people, by a single node getting activated and the network of nodes related to it also getting activated, which provides the brain of an empath with a myriad of possibilities to choose from with which to describe their current situation in the best way.

The closest most people get to feeling this kind of intuition is when we experience deja vu, which is a feeling that we have experienced something before because a similar node has been activated in our brain.

Due to this ability of the empath to be so intuitive and aware of their surroundings, and having the type of organization of information that works something like google, relating concepts to each other based on sometimes even arbitrary means, the empath may be able to tell what someone around them is thinking about them or if they are thinking about them.

When an Empath Falls in Love

When an empath in love, their abilities may make them the best listener possible, they may be attentive and understanding, but at the same time, it may make the partner feel like they cannot keep anything to themselves and they may feel too exposed and vulnerable.

The contrary possibility is that the partner may become too dependent on the empath, and may not pay as much attention to the empath’s feelings, and this may lead to the empath in love feeling like they have always felt even with their partner: like no one will ever understand them the way they understand others.

Due to their high intuition and easy ability to discern between people who are good for them and ones that won’t be, the empath in love will be very sure of who their partner is and they will select their partner very carefully as well.

The empath is so sensitive to the negativity that they only welcome people with positive energy into their lives, and the true empath may only fall in love with someone they can be themselves around. 

The empath in love will find it physically, emotionally, and spiritually painful to settle for anyone less than a great match, because they are much more sensitive to the people’s emotions than anyone else.

Empaths also care deeply about themselves, so if they are in love with someone who does not value them exactly as they feel they should be, it can cause them great heartbreak.

In addition, the partner that an empath is in love with also needs to understand the importance of alone time for these people; they are emotionally exhausted from being there for everyone constantly, and they need to take some time off from people to get back to feeling like themselves.

An Empath needs to re-energize in a space that is all their own, as they are constantly being bombarded with the energy of the people surrounding them, which can obviously get tiring.

Imagine being a device that is constantly picking up interference of the most disruptive kind and beeping up with noticing something, that is what an empath does but with feelings of their own as well as other people, and they need alone time in which they may introspect and relax, from which they will usually come back much happier.

Why Empaths Stay Single

The primary reason why empaths stay single is that as we discussed in the previous section we discussed the empath may face problems when they are in love with someone, like being the one who the partner leans on all the time or feeling too bombarded with stimuli, and they may eventually decide that it is just not worth it.

Why empaths stay single has everything to do with the unique abilities and the fact that there are very few people who will understand exactly what they feel the way they do, and this may sometimes fill them with sadness and stress.

A case could be made that maybe an empath could date or be with another empath, but the issue is that they are rare, to begin with, and an empath dating another empath might make the relationship far too intense to handle for both of them and they may both end up being miserable. 

Another reason why empaths may stay single is that they may feel too exhausted from being anxious and overloaded from feeling all the emotions of their partner because they do that even for strangers when they are involved with the person their emotions may make them even more In some cases empaths may also stay single and even deliberately avoid relationships as they are afraid of getting too involved in and consumed by the relationship, and they may feel like they won’t even be able to break up, because they may feel the sadness and heartbreak of the other person as well as their own.

Empath Physical Symptoms

According to Psychology Today, a physical empath is someone that may be so attuned to other people that they may start to feel like the other person does in an uncomfortable way, showing physical symptoms of someone they are feeling empathy towards.

Here is a brief quiz you can take, according to Psychology Today and score to see if you might be a physical empath with symptoms that are not caused by an illness of your own:

  • “Have I been labeled as overly sensitive or a hypochondriac?
  • Have I ever sat next to someone who seemed nice but suddenly my eyelids got heavy and I felt like taking a nap?
  • Do I feel uneasy, tired, or sick in crowds and avoid them?
  • Do I feel someone else’s anxiety or physical pain in my body?
  • Do I feel exhausted by angry or hostile people?
  • Do I run from doctor to doctor for medical tests, but I’m told: “You’re fine.”
  • Am I chronically tired or have many unexplained symptoms?
  • Do I frequently feel overwhelmed by the world and want to stay home?”

“If you answered “yes” to 1-3 questions you are at least part empath. Responding yes to 4 to 5 questions indicates you have a moderate degree of physical empathy. A yes on 6 to 7 indicate you have a high degree of empathy. Ticking yes to eight indicates you are a full-blown empath.”

Conclusion

In this brief guide, we looked at the question “Can an empath feel when someone is attracted to them?”, and some other subjects related to empathy. Please feel free to reach out to us with any questions or comments you may have.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs):  Can an empath feel when Someone is attracted to them?

Can Empaths feel when someone is thinking about them?

Yes, empaths can feel when someone is thinking about them because they are highly sensitive to what’s going on around them and take it in.

Empaths are supposed to have a great idea of what someone is thinking when they are around them and if someone is thinking about them they may know this too.

Who are Empaths attracted to?

Empaths are attracted to narcissists more often anyone else, unfortunately, as narcissists tend to present a very good view of themselves and at the same time narcissists great liars because tey truly believes some of their lies, which may mean that the empath can’t tell that the wonderful things they are hearing are just not true.

“But unfortunately empaths are attracted to narcissists because at first, this is about a false self. Narcissists present a false self, where they can seem charming and intelligent, and even giving until you don’t do things their way, and then they get cold, withholding and punishing.” says psychologist Judith Orloff, who has actually written a book about this phenomenon.

Can an empath feel another empath?

Yes, an empath can feel another empath because they are simply very perceptive and intuitive individuals, and this does not change when they are around another equally sensitive individuals like another empath.

Can Empaths sense danger?

Yes, empaths may sense danger if it is around them, as they are aware of their surroundings in an acute manner but they may not know if the danger is far away or out of sight, as an empath is not psychic.

Citations

https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/15-tips-help-you-love-empath.html

Divya is currently a Clinical Psychology Trainee in a Master of Philosophy program and holds a Master’s in clinical psychology. She has a special interest in Personality studies and disorders, having researched the subject before, and Neuropsychology; with an additional interest being Mood disorders. She likes to write about Psychiatric issues, having worked in multiple specialty setups during her time as a clinical psychology student, and in her free time she likes to cook and read.

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