Calm Personality Traits (A Complete Guide):

In this guide we will be covering the characteristics of calm personalities. We will look at the habits and qualities of this personality type. This will tell us what calm people do differently from others, that we can then learn and emulate. 

Calm Personality Traits:

There are individuals who are usually a lot calmer than most people. Knowing what these individuals do can help people who want to become calmer and learn to cope effectively with stress. 

Following are some common traits of calm personalities:

  • Address problems as they happen: Rather than waiting for a problem to happen, the calm personality deals with them when they occur. Additionally, they deal with them promptly rather than avoiding them. 
  • Treat themselves with kindness: The calm personality forgives themselves for mistakes and faults. 
  • Take everything in their stride: The calm personality understands that life has its ups and downs and doesn’t break down when things don’t go their way. 
  • Enjoy successes: The calm personality takes time to savor the achievements and positive aspects of their lives. 
  • Accept strange behaviour in others: Calm people avoid overthinking when people behave in a strange manner towards them. 
  • Go easy on other people: In addition to treating themselves kindly, the calm personality also treats others with tolerance rather than having unrealistic expectations of them. 
  • Stick to the middle ground: The calm personality will focus on the middle ground rather than extremes when making decisions. For example, when they have insufficient time to do a task they will do some of it rather than none of it. 
  • Active when feeling low: Although they give themselves time to recover when they are feeling low, they don’t neglect their activity levels completely. 
  • Proportionate reaction to events: Calm people are able to distinguish what is a small or a large issue and avoid catastrophizing when it is unwarranted. 
  • Take time to relax: The calm personality is good at devoting their downtime solely to relaxation rather than 

Habits of the Calm Personality:

It is possible to adopt the traits of a calm personality. It gives you clarity and control over your life and protects you from getting overwhelmed by stress. A person with a calm personality is also a pleasure to talk to, because they have a tendency to make other people feel calm too. Following are some habits that can create a calm personality:

  • Be present in the moment: The calm personality lives in the moment rather than being preoccupied with thoughts. They dedicate their complete attention to the person they’re talking to, which puts others at ease.
  • Respect other’s personal space: Calm people are highly aware of their own as well as others physical space. They avoid violating other’s personal space. 
  • Slow and steady: The calm personality is prone to moving a lot slower than most other individuals who are animated and energetic. This makes the calm personality much more relaxing to be with. 
  • Good listening skills: The calm personality has the capacity to listen patiently and non-judgmentally. They truly listen without waiting for their turn to talk and thus form deeper connections with people. 
  • Go with the flow: The calm personality does not dwell on their hardships, instead they find ways to learn from it and move on. They don’t stay fixated in things that don’t matter. 
  • Warm and friendly: This is especially obvious in the body language of the calm personality, which is characterised by smiles, good eye contact and a welcoming posture. 
  • Positive: The calm personality uses positive and encouraging language when conversing with others. 
  • Empathetic: Compassion and a desire to help others makes the calm personality good at putting themselves in others shoes and understanding their feelings. 
  • Good at lightening the mood: The calm personality is skilled at using humour at the right moments, such as when stress and tension are peaking. 
  • Trustworthy: The calm personality is someone people can share things with without worrying about it being gossiped about. 
  • Problem solvers: Despite going with the flow, the calm personality is good at analysing a problem situation and finding solutions. 
  • Knowing when to walk away: The calm personality is good at knowing when to remove themselves from a stressful or toxic situation in order to regain their composure and have a more balanced perspective. 
  • Knowing how to say ‘No’: Setting clear boundaries by saying ‘no’ when necessary, makes the calm personality less likely to feel fatigued or resentful by taking on too much. 
  • Knowing what you need: The calm personality is aware of their needs in the moment and focus on what they’re gut is telling them to do.
  • Health is equated with kindness: The calm personality prioritises self-compassion when they regulate their diet, exercise and other health-promoting regimens. 
  • Knowing when to move and when to stay still: The calm personality strikes the balance between working and taking time to relax and rejuvenate. 
  • Understand that less can be more: The calm personality knows how to slow down and smell the roses instead of constantly being on the go. 
  • Don’t follow the herd: The calm personality is unperturbed by a desire to please others. They do what feels right to them rather than society.
  • The calm personality has a clear understanding of themselves 
  • Mindfulness: The calm personality makes use of the space between the onset of a stimulus and the response to it. 
  • Exercise choice: The calm personality is aware of and exercises their freedom of choice when responding to a situation. 
  • Gratitude: The calm personality remembers to be grateful. They remember to celebrate the good in their lives which helps them cope with the tough times. 

Daily Strategies to Achieve a Calm Personality: 

  • Finding your center: Practices such as mindfulness and meditation gives the calm personality a chance to pause and reflect and stay in the moment. 
  • Expressing gratitude: Expressing gratitude reduced the stress hormone cortisol. This has psychological, physical as well as social benefits. 
  • Getting proper sleep: Poor sleep induces stress. The calm personality avoids this by getting adequate and restful sleep. This has a beneficial effect on their immunity, productivity and creativity. 
  • Socialising: Spending time with friends and loved ones can reduce stress levels and cushion the impact of negative experiences. 
  • Use vacation days: Taking regular vacations that help them recharge are important for the calm personality. They prioritise self-care, realising that it is necessary for a stress-free life. 
  • Technology-detox: The calm personality consciously takes time to unplug from their technological devices and focus on the world around them. 
  • Taking walks: Choosing to walk rather than using a vehicle allows the calm personality to attain their serenity. 
  • Avoid rushing: The calm personality makes sure that they are rarely late or in a hurry. They leave enough time to get where they need to go and don’t have multiple things on their to-do list. 
  • Prioritise self-care: The calm personality respects the holy trinity of good sleep, nutrition and exercise and does not compromise on it for anything. 
  • Rely on routine: Having certain invariable elements in their daily routine helps the calm personality reduce the load on their working memory. 
  • Self-regulate and maintain healthy boundaries: The calm personality is aware of their emotional and physical needs and knows when to take a break. They are good at disciplining themselves and being assertive about their needs. 
  • Accept things beyond their control: The calm personality knows that life is unpredictable and understands that things won’t always go according to plan.
  • Connect with the world authentically: The calm personality engages in at least one activity everyday that is unrelated to success or money. 
  • Understand that they are a small part of the universe: This understanding prevents the calm personality from taking life too seriously and feeling like the weight of the world is on their shoulders. 
  • Save money and keep a few months of living costs in cash: Financial stability is an important contributor to the calm personality. 
  • Diversify income sources: The calm personality finds multiple sources of income, such as investments, in addition to their regular incomes. 
  • Expanding skill set: The calm personality are good and develops new skills. 
  • Building a network: The calm personality is skilled at building a support system both virtually and in real life. 

Type A and Type B Personality Theory:

The Type A and Type B theory makes the distinction between two personality types: the high-strung and easily-stressed Type A and the laid back Type B. Type B is akin to the calm personality. 

Type Bs  tend to be fun-loving, easy-going and non-competitive people. They are not easily overcome by stress and anxiety. They are calm and relaxed most of the time. 

FAQ on ‘Calm Personality Traits (A Complete Guide)’:

How can I be a calm person?

To be a calm person you can use the following: meditation, focusing on gratitude, self-compassion, routines, to-do lists, journaling. 

What happens when you’re calm?

When a person is calm the stress response of the body is alleviated. The parasympathetic nervous system is activated and bodily functions, such as heart rate reduction, take place. 

What are the benefits of staying calm?

Staying calm enables individuals to feel more in control of their emotions, enjoy better health, improve creativity and communication. 

What happens if you never relax?

When a person is unable to relax, and the body is in a constant state of stress, conditions such as headache, cardiac problems, hypertension, gastrointestinal issues and other problems can occur. 

What is a calm personality?

The calm personality does not show extremes of any emotions, whether they are positive or negative. They are composed, diplomatic and stay relaxed in all situations. 

What are the 4 personality styles?

The four personality styles include the Analytical, Amiable, Driver and Expressive personality styles. 

References:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-practice/201406/10-things-calm-people-do

https://www.bustle.com/p/11-habits-all-people-who-are-calming-to-be-around-have-in-common-8759495

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/habits-of-calm-people_n_4174903

http://iceskatingresources.org/A&BTypePersonalities.html

https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-17736/10-everyday-habits-to-make-you-a-calmer-person.html

Divya is currently a Clinical Psychology Trainee in a Master of Philosophy program and holds a Master’s in clinical psychology. She has a special interest in Personality studies and disorders, having researched the subject before, and Neuropsychology; with an additional interest being Mood disorders. She likes to write about Psychiatric issues, having worked in multiple specialty setups during her time as a clinical psychology student, and in her free time she likes to cook and read.

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