Are extroverts more attractive? (A Complete Guide)

In this article, we will discuss Are extroverts more attractive?. We will do that by discussing what extroverts and attraction is. We will then relate the two and discuss what makes someone attractive. Finally, we will discuss a few strategies that can be employed by people to seem more attractive to others. In the end, we will answer a few questions related to extroverts.   

Are extroverts more attractive? 

Yes. Extroverts can be at an evolutionary advantage to seem more attractive because of their ability to form strong first impressions. They are also more confident and positive in their approach. Unlike introverts, they do not hesitate to be themself and try to be available for others. Their body language is also relaxed and they express their views quite confidently. This can draw other people towards them and be attracted to them However, it must be mentioned that introverts are equally attractive. People just have to invest time to get to know them and peel off their layers in order to find their hidden attractive qualities. 

Extroverts

Extroverts are people who function well among crowds of people with high energy and loud noise.  They love going to parties and seeking new experiences.  These people usually pack their schedules with a number of different events to attend throughout the month.  They love having a good time and expressing their thoughts to others.  They are the icebreakers and entertainers at a social gathering.  However,  being alone it is quite hard for them.  They feel highly unproductive,  low, and sad when they have nothing to do and no one to talk to.  They get their energy recharged by socializing with different people.

Attraction

 People often wonder what makes a person attractive and whether extroverts are attractive or not. We know that physical,  sexual, and romantic attraction depends upon multiple factors.  A person’s personality,  attitude, and charisma can help them in forming friendships and in finding dates. A lot of people focus and worry about whether they are physically attractive, but they need to remember that:

‘Great personality will always make you more attractive than someone who only has a great face. ‘    Matt May

But before this, we need to answer ‘What is attraction?’. 

Attraction is when we are intrigued and drawn to someone or something.  We have the urge to gratify our need of wanting to know more about someone and being around them more. Attraction makes us feel alive and energetic.

What makes someone attractive?

We will discuss what makes someone attractive and list down traits people find attractive in others. These include the following:

Positive attitude

People whose attitude is optimistic and look at life from a positive perspective are more likely to be popular among others.  They are found to be professionally successful and healthy both physically and mentally.  Kindness is also considered to be an attractive trait.  So, it is possible for one to train themselves to be a positive thinker and get people to like you more.

Balanced extroversion

Extroverts can be masters of attracting people because of their charisma and social nature.  They are more likely to have multiple sexual partners and overall romantic success.  It is easy for them to win people over by being friendly and giving them a flashy smile which is genuine.  In other words,  extroverts make good first impressions and it can make people around them feel comfortable.  They can easily break the ice and get people to be themselves around them.

 Confidence

There is a difference between being confident and overconfident.  Balanced confidence can put people around you at ease.  It can elevate your social status and make you seem more authentic and self-assured.  Confident people draw people to themself like magnets. 

How to be more attractive

There are various strategies one can employ to be more attractive to others. A few of them are stated as follows:

Try to be interesting and authentic

 Human minds are intrigued by something that catches their attention. We are drawn to someone who is interesting and knows how to be themself.  Many times we have a fear that we are not good enough and others find us boring. Ironically, this fear prevents us from being ourselves self and we start to panic.  We stop being authentic and try really hard to fit in so that others would not see us as weird or different.  

However, it is important that originality and authenticity can be quite intriguing.  The first impression we make matters a lot because our brain makes quick impressions and judgements of people. So,  so in order to be more attractive try to be as original and authentic as you can.  Be expressive and vocal about your likes and dislikes.  Do not try too hard to modify yourself for others. 

‘The secret of attraction is to love yourself. Attractive people judge neither themselves nor others. They are open to gestures of love. They think about love, and express their love in every action. They know that love is not a mere sentiment, but the ultimate truth at the heart of the universe.’  -Deepak Chopra

Be available

Studies have shown that being physically available for someone is important.  Along with that,  emotional availability can be paramount in deciding whether people are interested in you.  Economic and intellectual availability matters as well because it decides whether someone can rely on you and engage with you in stimulating conversations. 

The best way to show availability is to express that you want to connect and talk to someone  Tell them why you are there and what you expecting from them. e.g. ‘It’s really nice to meet you. I am expecting to know more about you ‘. After the first impression, keep in mind the following: 

‘Remember, the attraction is only one part of a relationship. Loyalty, commitment, responsibility, and maturity make up the rest’.    -Ruth Westheimer

Attractive body language 

Studies have found that an open torso exhibits confidence.  This includes while sitting or standing avoid being huddled up or hiding your body with your handbag or keeping your phone in your hands.  All these tactics tend to hide us and make us seem physically unavailable.  Similarly holding our hands,  putting them in your pockets, or touching them under the table can be unattractive because it makes people unable to open up to you. 

To prevent this from happening,  next time try to relax in the presence of others and do not engage in body hiding strategies.  Sit with an open posture and hands out in front of you.  Let others know you are available for them

In the end, we can say whether you are an extrovert or an introvert, just be yourself and remember that:

‘We are all attractive in our own ways; it just takes the right person to hold the mirror and convince us of what others already see’.     Kaliana Dietrich

FAQs: Are extroverts more attractive?

Can an extrovert have social anxiety?

Yes. Extroverts can have social anxiety. Such extroverts go through more intense social anxiety because they get energy from social interactions but are also afraid of them. They are torn between approaching social situations and avoiding them. They feel fatigued and sad after long durations of social situation avoidance.

Can an extrovert be shy?

An extrovert can be shy.  Extraversion and introversion exist on a continuum.  So, a person can be an extrovert with introvert tendencies i.e an ambivert. These people enjoy being surrounded by lots of people but dislike being the center of attention.  They also need time alone to recharge. Shy extroverts have the social skills to socialize but they may avoid social situations to recharge as they can also get overwhelmed by constant social stimulation. 

Are extroverts attracted to introverts?

Extroverts are attracted to introverts because of their quiet charm and mysterious way of thinking. They love that introverts are great listeners and are quite understanding. Introverts assist them to be in touch with their introspective side. Furthermore, introverts make great romantic partners because they make sure others are comfortable around them and have their needs fulfilled. 

Conclusion

In this article, we discussed Are extroverts more attractive?. We found that Extroverts can be at an evolutionary advantage to seem more attractive because of their ability to form strong first impressions. They are also more confident and positive in their approach. Unlike introverts, they do not hesitate to be themself and try to be available for others. Their body language is also relaxed and they express their views quite confidently. This can draw other people towards them and be attracted to them However, it must be mentioned that introverts are equally attractive. People just have to invest time to get to know them and peel off their layers in order to find their hidden attractive qualities. 

 I hope you found this article interesting. If you have any queries or comments, please state them in the comment section 😊

Citations

https://www.mydomaine.com/attractive-personality-traits

https://www.wiseoldsayings.com/attraction-quotes/

Divya is currently a Clinical Psychology Trainee in a Master of Philosophy program and holds a Master’s in clinical psychology. She has a special interest in Personality studies and disorders, having researched the subject before, and Neuropsychology; with an additional interest being Mood disorders. She likes to write about Psychiatric issues, having worked in multiple specialty setups during her time as a clinical psychology student, and in her free time she likes to cook and read.