Are ENFP and ESFP Compatible? (A Complete Guide)

In this guide, we will answer the question: Are ENFP and ESFP Compatible?. We will look at the different sides of the ENFP-ESFP compatibility.

Have you wondered how compatible the ENFP and ESFP personality type can be? In the following section, we delve into understanding their similarities, differences, and compatibility in relationships.

Are ENFP and ESFP Compatible?

Despite their many differences, ENFP and ESFP can make for a compatible relationship.

The ENFP-ESFP Compatilbility

ENFP translates into Extraversion (E), Intuition (N), Feeling(F), Perception (P). The ENFP person is an Intuitive Feeling type. These individuals are drawn towards building deep and meaningful connections with people. They are curious to know what drives the person they are interested in. The ENFP person will eagerly swim to the depths of your being in an effort to truly understand you. They seek relationships that will help them grow. Consequently, they are attracted to qualities of sensitivity, kindness, and thoughtfulness in a person.

ESFP translates to Extraversion (E), Sensing (S), Feeling (F), Perception (P). These individuals are the Sensing Perceiver type. Resultantly, their focus is on the present moment. They are seeking individuals they can enjoy, and share a laugh with. They are not overly concerned with developing a deep connection. In a relationship, they hope to find a partner they can have fun with!

Initially, the ESFP-ENFP relationship seems unlikely considering the vastly different approaches towards relationships. The ENFP person is empathic, sensitive, and thoughtful. Their thoughtfulness expands to the people and world around them. The ENFP person is trying to chart out ways to make the world a better place. They are attuned to the feelings of people around them. Oftentimes, their idealistic personality finds them swimming in a pool of their imagination. It is not uncommon to find an ENFP individual lost in their little world.

On the other hand, the spontaneous ESFP lives in the present. Unlike the little home the ENFP has made in their mind, the ESFP lives in the here and now. They are rooted in reality, actively taking steps as and when needed. The ESFP is not worried about how they can change the world. They enjoy it in the way it is. 

Despite their salt and sugar difference, the ENFP and ESFP relationship can turn out to be a beautiful one. With the idealism, thoughtfulness, and sensitivity of the ENFP and the spontaneity, fun, and in-the-moment living of the ESFP; this pair could bring about quite a combination. 

Let’s Talk

Communication is a primary foundation of any relationship. Partners often stumble upon communication troubles in a relationship. Hence, it is paramount to acknowledge it and work through it. The ESFP-ENFP relationship may also encounter some rough waters when it comes to communication.

The ENFP communication style is mainly abstract in nature. They delve into understanding the “why?” in every situation. In communicating their thoughts, the ENFP tends to focus on ideas, theories, and their own interpretation of the topic at hand. They do not simply state an observation. They tend to focus on the general idea, as opposed to focusing on the finer details.

For the ESFP, communication is straightforward. They do not beat around the bush. Unlike the ENFP  focus on the general idea, the ESFP takes into account the finer details and the steps necessary to ensure its fruition. Their communication focuses on the “what” aspect of the situation. They communicate what they have observed and support it with relevant evidence. 

Despite the differences in their communication style, both these individuals can help enhance each other’s communication styles. The ENFP partner can help their ESFP counterpart seek a deeper meaning in situations. While the ESFP partner can help their ENFP counterpart infuse a sense of objectivity in their planning, enabling them to look at the finer aspects of the situation as opposed to only the general idea.

What Matters

ENFP and ENFJ share a common ground for compassion towards others. They invest time in helping those around them. They thrive in jobs that cater to their need to help people. Some of these jobs include professions like health care, education, and social services. They also tend to offer their time and services, volunteering for causes. In a nutshell, helping and serving people holds great value for both these personality types.

Although, these values might be expressed differently. As mentioned earlier, the ENFP person is highly idealistic. Hence, they may spend their time charting out possibilities and ideas for a better world. They wish to make difference. However, they may or may not translate these ideas into action.

For the ESFP person, producing tangible results is important. They try to offer support in a manner that its fruits can be reaped in the present, as opposed to sometime in the future. The ESFP person will help out with a volunteering cause, offering their services. Their solution is pragmatic and logical. When they have ideas, they seek to translate it into reality. The need to help out stems from a sense of social responsibility.

While they may differ with respect to how these values play out in their lives, there is scope for learning. They firmly adhere to the values close to them. The ENFP person can help their ESFP counter seek a deeper purpose in their social actions, while the ESFP partner can help them view their ideas through a practical lens, encouraging them to translate it into tangible results.

The Daily Grind

The extraverted aspect of their personalities allows them to harbor a healthy love for social interactions. The ESFP and ENFJ person enjoy engaging with people. It is not uncommon for them to have a big circle of friends, throwing frequent get-togethers and not shying away from family gatherings. They will be open to the idea of introducing each other to their families and friends. They see this as a way to strengthen their bond. They lead busy social lives. Their lives are buzzing with constant activity. They do not seem to find it draining since being around people energizes them. However, in the midst of the hum-drum, they might tend to prioritize their relationship less. Hence, it is paramount for both the partners to take time out for each other and the relationship. Further, this will give them the space to introspect and reflect on other areas of their lives.

Both the ESFP and ENFP tend to take the flexible, unstructured route. They tend to be relaxed. They are unlikely to adhere to the framework of routines, plans, and schedules. Hence, when sharing space it becomes important to designate chores and other responsibilities. Since organization isn’t their strongest preference, they will let creativity take charge in their daily lives. They both are not uncomfortable in the midst of disorganization. This might make sharing space a tad bit easier. Since neither the ENFP nor ESFP might be bent on maintaining a tidy or perfectly organized space. In fact, their creativity might allow them to conjure up an aesthetic living space.

The deeply thoughtful ENFP will welcome life as a platform to nurture their imagination and ideas. While the ESFP will accept life at face value, rarely dipping their toes into the deeper meanings and patterns. They believe in letting their actions speak. They will engage in activities that stimulate their senses or the body. They might frequently enjoy cooking, painting, or any sport.

There is a difference in the way the two personality types perceive routine. For the ENFP, it is important to keep it interesting, fighting the mundane. The ESFP might not engage in activities purely for the sake of making the daily saga interesting.

Conclusion

In this blog post, we answered the question: Are ENFP and ESFP Compatible?. Further, we delved into understanding the different aspects of an ENFP-ESFP relationship.

FAQs : Are ENFP and ESFP Compatible?

Who should an ESFP marry?

The dominant function of the ESFP is Extraverted Sensing (Se). It is best matched with a partner with a dominant function of Introverted Sensing (Si). Hence, the ESFP is best matched with an ISTJ or ISFJ (personalitypage.com)

What makes ESFP happy?

An ESFP enjoys entertaining people. It brings them great joy and satisfaction. They enjoy expressing themselves creatively. Hence, the ESFP person is likely to engage in activities like comedy, singing, and dancing (crystalknows.com)

How does an ENFP fall in love?

For an ENFP, falling in love is an intense process. They fall hard and fast in love. They tend to hold on to these feelings for a long time (personalitygrowth.com).

Who should an ENFP marry?

The INFP personality type’s dominant function is Extraverted Intuition. It is best matched with a partner having a dominant function of Introverted Intuition. Therefore, the ideal match for an ENFP would INTJ or INFJ (personalitypage.com).

References

Compatibility of ENFP with ESFP in Relationships

https://www.truity.com/type-relationship-advisor/E/N/F/P/E/S/F/P

Divya is currently a Clinical Psychology Trainee in a Master of Philosophy program and holds a Master’s in clinical psychology. She has a special interest in Personality studies and disorders, having researched the subject before, and Neuropsychology; with an additional interest being Mood disorders. She likes to write about Psychiatric issues, having worked in multiple specialty setups during her time as a clinical psychology student, and in her free time she likes to cook and read.