Are empaths good in bed? (A complete guide)

In this article, we will discuss ‘Are empaths good in bed?’. We will do that by defining empaths and sexual empaths. We will further explain how empaths are in their sexual relationships. Next, we will discuss factors that can affect how an empath performs sexually. Finally, we will discuss how an empath views different forms of sexuality. 

Are empaths good in bed? 

Yes. It is highly possible that empaths are good in bed because of their tendency to put the needs of others ahead of their own. So, they may prioritize making their partners happy even if they are not sexually satisfied themself. This makes them vulnerable to getting hurt. Furthermore, empaths are hypersensitive physically and emotionally which enables them to detect their partner’s emotions and respond accordingly. This can affect their sexual relations in either good or bad away. Apart from this, there are multiple other factors that may affect how well or how bad an empath performs in sexual relationships. They are discussed in detail as follows.

Empaths

Empaths are people with a special ability to identify other people’s emotions, their feelings, and their thoughts.  This ability helps them to see the world from their perspective and relate to their pain.  Empaths are also called highly sensitive people due to their sensitivity to detect changes in the emotional and mental states of people.  Sometimes,  empaths absorb other people’s feelings and carry them as well.  Doing so can exhaust them mentally as well as physically.

Sexual Empaths

Sexual empaths are those whose abilities to empathize get intensified during encounters that are erotic in nature.  Due to this,  they can sense stress or bliss more than it is present.  Sexual empaths are sensitive to intimate interactions such as flirting and lovemaking.  This is because they are able to detect their partner’s energy.  For these empaths, it is important to be physically intimate with partners that can reciprocate their love.   They are able to be their best versions if their partner can appreciate their sense of sexuality. 

Empaths and Sexual Relationships

 For empaths,  casual sex is not something they are into.  This is because they are sensitive and invest their emotional energy during intimate interactions.  They are able to pick out the hidden feelings of their sexual partner.  They can also intuitively guess what their partner is thinking during the act.  This includes detecting, anxiety, fear,  and even stress.  Sometimes,  they can absorb the toxic energy that comes from negative emotions.  This can affect them as well and their performance.  So it is important that the partner that is chosen is right for them.

Many empaths do not make the right decisions when it comes to choosing a sexual partner. They make the mistake of moving too fast with someone new who sparks their sexuality. Accordingly, they ignore any red flags which can harm them later on. Their eagerness to get into a sexual relationship is equivalent to them opening themself to get hurt. Such relationships are not balanced as one partner loves too much and the other is emotionally unavailable and does not reciprocate. 

Factors affecting an Empath’s Sexuality

There are multiple factors that affect an empath and their sexuality. These are stated as follows:

 History of Sexual and emotional abuse

 Prior history of past abuse can affect an empath’s ability to connect with someone on a physical and romantic level. They may hesitate and shy away from sexual relations and turn to celibacy.  Another possibility is that they may be drawn to sex as they see it as a defining factor for their personality. Another way things can turn out is that an empath may not be interested in sex at all and have difficulty being aroused. Their past history of sexual abuse may interfere with their performance. 

 Prior psychological and emotional abuse can also affect them in a devastating way.  These people may have difficulty trusting others and have low self-esteem.  It can also contribute to depression or sexual dysfunction.

Physical and Emotional Hypersensitivity

It is highly possible that empaths are physically and emotionally hypersensitive.  They may be born with this or develop it later in life due to certain experiences.  Hypersensitivity can make an empath vulnerable to showing strong emotional responses which can affect their sexual activity and ability to be intimate. 

Illness or medical cause

Medical factors can also play a role in sexual dysfunction. It can affect a person’s ability to be aroused and reach orgasm.  Conditions like, diabetes heart problems, hormonal imbalance, menopause, and multiple other medications can have side effects including sexual dysfunction. This can affect an empath’s ability to perform sexually especially if they have such an illness or taking such medication

 Experiences with a Narcissist

 An empath’s history with a narcissistic person be it a family member, friend, or romantic partner can affect them deeply.  It can lead to issues of low self-esteem,  depression, shame, or guilt. This can affect their ability to have enjoyable sexual and intimate relationships.

 Psychological issues

 Apart from the above-stated factors,  psychological issues like occupational stress,  anxiety,  depression,  sexual trauma,  and anxiety about sexual performance can also play a role in affecting an empath’s ability to perform sexually.

An empath’s approach to  different types of sexuality

 Submission

 During submission,  a person gives up control to their partner during sexual encounters or even during everyday life. An empath may adopt this behavior due to their tendency to heal and take care of other people. Their need to have peace and harmony in their relationship may push them to be submissive to their partners. Feelings like shame and denying pain can also co-occur with submissive behavior.

 Casual sex

 Casual sexual behavior with multiple sexual partners is quite common.  However,  for an empath, this may or may not become a pattern.  A possibility is that an empath with low self-esteem may seek multiple sexual relationships in order to get validation for their self-worth.  With time,  this may become an addiction and they may resort to defining their ‘self’ by how their partners perceive them during sex. 

 Mutual beneficial sexual relationships

 Sexual relationships where both partners share intimacy and reach orgasm without pushing away from the intimate act describes mutually beneficial relationships.  For an empath,  this may be difficult to achieve because they are usually highly sensitive to the emotions of their partner.  Their main effort or priority is directed towards gratifying their partner while putting their own needs at the back end.  In other words,  they are givers rather than receivers. 

 Indirect forms of sexuality

 Sexuality that is not direct can include watching porn, showing voyeuristic behavior, and directly witnessing sexual acts. Empaths can lean towards these types,  as they try to live through the sexual experience vicariously through their partner’s experience.

Asexuality

Abstinence from sexual relationships can also be adopted by some empaths. It can take place in order to get closer to a higher force. This can happen mostly for spiritual empaths. They can adopt the role of Nuns or Father at Church. 

FAQs: Are empaths good in bed?

Are empaths good lovers?

 Empaths are good at loving people because they are extra careful to make their partners happy. However,  it is difficult for them to be intimate because they can easily get overwhelmed by their partner’s energy and emotions.  Negative emotions can be toxic to their relationship.  It is important that an empath is with the partner who understands this side of them and agrees to define physical and personal boundaries.

 Can an empath feel when someone is attracted to them?

 Yes. an empath can detect when someone is attracted to them because they are highly self-aware.  They know their own emotions as well as the emotions of other people.  Their ability to reflect back emotions can also so make other people think they are attracted to them.

 How do empaths love differently?

 Empaths love differently because they love to socialize and be around people.  However, at the same time, they can get overwhelmed and need time away from people in order to recharge.

 Why do empaths struggle with romantic relationships?

 Empaths struggle with romantic relationships because they have mood swings and strong emotions.  As a result,  their strong emotions can get out of control and affect their relationships in a negative way.

Conclusion

In this article, we discussed ‘Are empaths good in bed?’. We found that it is highly possible that empaths are good in bed because of their tendency to put the needs of others ahead of their own. So, they may prioritize making their partners happy even if they are not sexually satisfied themself. This makes them vulnerable to getting hurt. Furthermore, empaths are hypersensitive physically and emotionally which enables them to detect their partner’s emotions and respond accordingly. This can affect their sexual relations in either good or bad away. Apart from this, there are multiple other factors that may affect how well or how bad an empath performs in sexual relationships.

 I hope you found this article interesting. If you have any queries or comments, please state them in the comment section 😊

Citations

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-empaths-survival-guide/201802/how-know-if-you-are-sexual-empath

https://www.facebook.com/notes/empathic-perspectives/empaths-sexuality-a-look-at-empath-sexual-dysfunction/403861146301524/

Armah is a mental health professional in training. She has done her Bachelors and Masters in Clinical Psychology with specialization in Cognitive Behavior Therapy. Her goal is to make a difference in the field of mental health be it by spreading awareness through writing or through clinical practice. In her free time, she likes to read, keep up to date about new trends in Psychology, bake and watch Netflix 😊

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