This article will look at how the type 7w8 enneagram behaves in relationships and what traits they have that either benefit or harm the relationship. Furthermore, the article will also introduce this enneagram type as well as its fears and desires.
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In relationships the 7w8 enneagram tends to display the following traits or behaviours:
- Love Spending Time
- Remain Calm
- Distracted by Work
- Justify Negative Feelings
- Missing Out On Plans
Before we take a look at these in detail, we will introduce this enneagram type to the readers!
The 7w8 Enneagram: The Opportunist
The 7w8 enneagram that is also known as the ‘Opportunist’ is one that is mostly made up of traits from the type 7 enneagram but shares some traits with the type 8 enneagram too. Compared to most type 7 enneagrams, these individuals are more committed and hard working in their work going the extra mile. They like to put work first and ensure they have completed their tasks or assignments. This is powered by the innate determination they have to get done with whatever they have promised to get done. The 7w8 enneagram is also more tough in their behavior and a bit protective – they like to remain composed.
At the same time they are very enthusiastic individuals. They like to be energetic in whatever they do rather than take a sluggish or half hearted approach in what they do. They are keen to get things done and take an interest in whatever is on their schedule that needs attention.
Like other enneagrams, these ones also like to seek new opportunities and make the best out of them. They are gratification seekers and don’t want to miss out any experiences that they come across. At the same time, they have a very optimistic attitude about life and like to be happy!
They have an extroverted trait to them as well. The type 7w8 enneagram is fond of being around other people and loves to interact, socialize and have fun. They like to attend public events or gatherings where they can meet new people, relax and just enjoy the moment and live in it. Hence, these people are great to call to parties or gatherings because they keep things alive and going and don’t let anyone feel left out or bored – they are the life of the party!
It is obvious that one fear these enneagrams have is missing out on the fun going around them. Hence they may fall into a dilemma when it comes to commitments or letting go and just having fun. However, their personality tends to pull them more towards their commitments and hence they are able to pull through and show how reliable they are – making the right choices at the right time matters.
The Fear of Opportunists
Although they want to be committed and come out as reliable people others can depend on because they ensure they meet tasks, this enneagram is scared of missing out on new experiences. They do not want to be deprived of what life has to offer them and this puts them in a difficult spot. Why? They have a number of commitments and work tasks to meet so it is not always possible to let go of things and do what they want when they want to.
This fear is accompanied by the one that they may miss out because of their work schedules. They do not want to be controlled by what they are doing and wish to have flexible schedules that allow them to organize things from time to time so they can incorporate new things into their schedule and hence not miss out on anything they want to pursue.
The Basic Desire – Type 7w8 Enneagrams
These guys just want to be happy and content. They want to be assured that they have not missed out on anything that they wanted to try. Being happy is an integral part of their peace and they do usually attain this by surrounding themselves with people that they get along with, like or are new and can thus get to learn more about them. They like to travel around the world and be part of new cultural or social experiences and see how things are different in other parts of the world.
The type 7w8 enneagram also likes to attend parties. It gives them a chance to relax and meet new people and just socialize and hence get lost in the moment.
What is interesting is that this enneagram will do absolutely anything to keep themselves happy even if it is a false illusion they are under. They will justify others actions and try to suppress bad feelings that they have. It may work in the short time but it will eventually come back to haunt them later.
The 7w8 Enneagram & Relationships
In this section of the article we will take a look at some of the traits or behaviours that are exhibited by this enneagram type.
Love Spending Time
Yes, this enneagram type loves spending time with their significant other. They will plan out trips or evenings at a local restaurant or cafe or even take her or him bowling! Whatever the excuse is, they will find time to spend with the person they are very much fond of.
They don’t fret about the time that is being lost or the work they are missing out on but live in the moment. The significant other of type 7w8 enneagrams won’t feel as though they are being neglected when they are with them. Although this personality type sometimes does have issues sustaining things or meeting up with commitments.
Whether it’s a late night walk, tea at a nearby cafe or a long drive, this personality type loves to spend time with their special person. It helps them relax and enjoy the moments they have together.
Another great trait this enneagram has is that they have the ability to remain calm in tough or stressful situations. While others may shut the phone or walk out the door after an intense argument, this enneagram will remain calm and try to see things as they are. They will help calm down the situation because they realize the emotions of the other person and how they think.
Hence, in tough spots, they are able to keep things going and won’t throw the relationship out of the door at the first chance. They will try to fix things and make them work for the long term!
Distracted by Work
As we mentioned, the 7w8 enneagram is very work oriented. They love to work and focus much of their routine around it. They will think about it most of the time even after office hours. They will be so absorbed that they don’t mind spending extra time there. However, this does affect the relationships they are in.
It is possible their spouse or significant other may feel neglected at times because their special person is thinking about work even when they are with them. This can make the other person feel unwanted or unimportant and they will slowly start to move away. It may seem as though they do not notice or are quiet and hence do not care. However, inside they do feel it and desire the focused attention of the type 7w8 enneagram.
Justify Negative Feelings
This enneagram wants to remain happy. They want the best out of everything they do – including the relationships they are in. This is why they sometimes end up justifying negative feelings and behaviours others express towards them. It automatically increases the probability of them getting into and stuck in an abusive relationship where they are not able to get out because they are firmly rooted by the belief that they other person does love them but they are just upset or get angry – of course because of something the enneagram type did right?
Missing Out On Plans
Sometimes this enneagram has too much on their plate but they still try to get their hands on whatever they can! They will commit and commit because they not only want to not miss out on different experiences but because they do not want to say no to others and disappoint them. Hence, this results in them not being able to meet their commitments to others or forgetting they had a date with their significant other!
This article took a look at the type 7w8 enneagram and how they behave in relationships by highlighting their good and bad traits. The article also introduced this enneagram to the readers by defining their major personality traits as well as their fears and desires.