This article will look at the compatibility between the 7w8 and 8w7 enneagram types by highlighting those traits that will affect their relationship and how. Furthermore, the article will also introduce each enneagram type to help the readers develop a deeper understanding of the topic. The article will also mention traits that may adversely affect the relationship between the two enneagrams and how they can work around it.
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The 7w8 and 8w7 enneagram types are compatible with each other because of the traits they possess. Although there are marked differences between the two enneagram types, they both possess certain characteristics that make the relationship they have strong.
These are the traits of the 7w8 enneagram that increase their compatibility with 8w7s:
- Spending Time
- Optimistic Thinking
- Remaining Calm
These are the traits of the 8w7 enneagram that increase their compatibility with 7w8s:
- Openly share thoughts
- Are Idealistic
- Get Along
Before we look at these traits in detail, we will take a look at the two enneagrams under discussion and introduce them to the readers.
The 7w8 Enneagram: The Opportunist
The 7w8 enneagram that is also known as the ‘Opportunist’ is one that is mostly made up of traits from the type 7 enneagram but shares some traits with the type 8 enneagram too. Compared to most type 7 enneagrams, these individuals are more committed and hard working in their work going the extra mile. They like to put work first and ensure they have completed their tasks or assignments. This is powered by the innate determination they have to get done with whatever they have promised to get done. The 7w8 enneagram is also more tough in their behavior and a bit protective – they like to remain composed.
At the same time they are very enthusiastic individuals. They like to be energetic in whatever they do rather than take a sluggish or half hearted approach in what they do. They are keen to get things done and take an interest in whatever is on their schedule that needs attention.
Like other enneagrams, these ones also like to seek new opportunities and make the best out of them. They are gratification seekers and don’t want to miss out any experiences that they come across. At the same time, they have a very optimistic attitude about life and like to be happy!
They have an extroverted trait to them as well. The type 7w8 enneagram is fond of being around other people and loves to interact, socialize and have fun. They like to attend public events or gatherings where they can meet new people, relax and just enjoy the moment and live in it. Hence, these people are great to call to parties or gatherings because they keep things alive and going and don’t let anyone feel left out or bored – they are the life of the party!
It is obvious that one fear these enneagrams have is missing out on the fun going around them. Hence they may fall into a dilemma when it comes to commitments or letting go and just having fun. However, their personality tends to pull them more towards their commitments and hence they are able to pull through and show how reliable they are – making the right choices at the right time matters.
8w7 Enneagrams – Nonconformists
The 8w7 enneagram type shares most of its traits with the 8 type enneagram but also has some traits from the wing 7 too. This enneagram is generally comfortable with conflicts that they may face and this is because they are confident, independent and quite ambitious! They persevere in their path and do not let others get in the way. Furthermore, they may be quiet but when the time comes they will speak up and defend their own stance or those of others.
Although they wander much around in their mind, these enneagram types are also great at handling people and taking practical steps. They make the right decisions and prefer to do so on their own without much interference. Apart from thinking clearly and logically, they are creative and like to test innovative ideas! They go the extra mile when it comes to establishing goals or milestones that they want to achieve. They are big dreamers and quite idealistic in their vision. They want to create a world or society where people can go big or go home. They want to help others achieve their own dreams by ensuring no one creates hurdles for them.
This enneagram type, however, is afraid of losing their own autonomy and maybe this is why they are so independent because they want to assure themselves that they can handle most matters on their own. At the same time, these individuals also struggle when it comes to being emotionally honest or vulnerable. They will try to ignore their own emotions or what they feel because they are either too afraid of facing them or just want to focus on what is going on in the external world. They won’t even let anyone too close as they do not want to become emotionally or mentally vulnerable.
This enneagram type has however developed great people skills and can become effective and inspirational leaders. They are open when it comes to sharing their thoughts and opinions about certain matters with others – they do not care about what others will think. They are comfortable creating connections with others and can easily do so.
However, this enneagram does have some weaknesses. They will have difficulty in following instructions from authority figures and they are impatient at times. They may overindulge in themselves or their work and may become insensitive to the feelings of others.
If you’re facing this, it may be a good idea to seek the help of a therapist or other mental health professional. You can find a therapist at BetterHelp who can help you learn how to cope and address it.
7w8 & 8w7 Compatibility: The Enneagrams
In this section, we will take a look at the traits of both the enneagrams that help them settle into the relationship!
7w8s – Calm Lovers
Yes, they indeed are calm when they are met with difficult situations, especially ones in relationships. Most people get angry and frustrated or emotionally overwhelmed in a relationship when something goes wrong or a fight occurs. However this enneagram type is able to remain calm and see things for what they are. They can of course see the frustration the other person experiences as well as the anger but also the sincerity in their words and behaviours. Hence, they can not only remain calm because they don’t only see the bad but also help the other person calm down.
This enneagram type is also an optimistic thinker – they prefer to see things in a good rather than bad light. Hence, the actions and words of their significant other will always be perceived with good intentions and they won’t assume that the other person is taunting them or making fun of them. What often happens in relationships is that we think the other person is out to get us – hence we behave accordingly and this slowly deteriorates the relationship. However, the 7w8 enneagram takes everything in a positive note – even red flags sometimes!
Another trait they have is spending time with the other person. This helps them settle down with the 8w7 enneagram and give them the attention they need!
8w7s – Realistic Lovers
This enneagram type is more clear in their thinking and can look at things for what they are. They do not give too much weightage to their emotions and this allows them to have a neutral and objective stance which matches that of the enneagram 7w8. They can easily express their thoughts and hence quickly get to the root cause of the issue and communicate it to their partner.
Furthermore, another trait that helps them settle down with the enneagram 7w8 is forming connections with the other person. The 7w8 enneagram appreciates it when others take time out to get to know them!
Idealism is something that defines this enneagram type and it helps them create a vision with their 7w8 partner of where they want to be – this future and security is something the 7w8 desires!
What To Watch Out For?
It is important to highlight some of the differences between the 7w8 and 8w7 enneagram types that may affect their relationship adversely. The 8w7 enneagram is quite blunt and appreciates clear answers from their partner. However, the 7w8 enneagram is more diplomatic and may not say everything they feel or think. It is important the two types realize these differences and work on them especially in terms of communication.
This article took a look at the compatibility between the 7w8 and 8w7 enneagram types and commented on the traits that affect it. Furthermore, to help the audience develop a deeper understanding of the topic, the article introduced each enneagram type in detail.