5w4 & 4w5 Relationships (A 4 Point Guide)

This article will explore whether or not the two enneagram types – the 5w4 and the 4w5 – are good for each other. It will comment on how they complement each other and what traits may turn out to be hurdles in their life with each other. Furthemore, the article will also introduce the two enneagrams to the readers so they develop a deeper understanding of the topic in discussion.

5w4 & 4w5 Relationships: Are They Good Partners?

The 5w4 and 4w5 enneagrams are actually good partners in a relationship because they have the same temperament and share similar traits as well. They are not quite reactive and like to take a more passive or safe route when it comes to handling relationship issues.

The 5w4 enneagram is quite sensitive and will feel even the smallest of things – they are quick to pick up on things that their partner may say and has the potential to hurt them. Although the 4w5 enneagram may not be quick to notice and may in fact distance themself in difficult times, they are able to understand the problem at hand and will view things from an objective view which will also help the two be neutral in problems and accept their issues. It would be bad if the 4w5 enneagram was also overly sensitive or reacted strongly.

Both of these enneagrams have interesting traits that may make them great work partners! While the 4w5 enneagram is quite creative and loves to learn, the 5w4 enneagram has the eyes for the smaller details and can come up with many ideas on how to do things differently.

The two enneagrams indeed have their issues which are necessary to solve to keep the relationship going. They have the tendency to withdraw when difficult situations arise. Also, they focus on their own view when it comes to determining the root cause of a problem.

The 5w4 Enneagram – The Philosopher

Possessing more traits associated with the type 5 rather than type 4 enneagram, the ‘Philosopher’ although reserved in their behaviour is quite the thinker and reflector! They like to take their time when it comes to pondering over things that amaze or fascinate them. Furthermore, they like to do this in a peaceful and quiet environment rather than brainstorm over it with others. They are indeed introverted because they need alone time not only to think but to also reflect and recharge their social battery.

Compared to type 5 enneagrams, they are more emotional and expressive. Hence, they do possess a more human element and do not just focus on the hard areas of life or use simple facts and figures to explain phenomena. This is because they realize the importance of human intervention and influence. Also, these individuals are quite expressive and like to do things in a manner that not only represents their opinions or beliefs but also feels comfortable to them.

Because of their nature and how they think or feel about others, these enneagram types may seem a bit distant – they remain guarded and withdrawn from others. This is not only because they need time alone but they prefer to keep a distance from other people. At the same time, they are very much open to gaining new skills and knowledge to increase their knowledge base as well as the resources – in the form of skills – that will help them strengthen their own standing and make them more capable of even greater tasks.

Despite their introverted side, they love to explore new avenues! They will explore to find more opportunities, learn the truth regarding people or things that interest them and also just for the sake of it. They love exploring and they don’t mind doing this alone because it allows them to have the chance to think and reflect while on such ‘missions’.

The 4w5 Enneagram: The Free Spirit

This enneagram type is a combination of traits mostly from the enneagram 4 with some traits from the enneagram type 5 as well. Compared to most enneagram type 4’s, this one is not very concerned with their public image and hence do not worry too much about how others will think of them. Furthermore, the type 4 enneagram is more into developing a deeper understanding of themselves and the world around them.

To develop a deeper understanding of things, the type 4w5 enneagram tends to engage in behaviours like introspection, imagination and deep thinking. They are also very creative as a result and like to focus on their perception of their environment. This enneagram type is driven by a deeper desire to truly understand the world and how it operates. The main purpose behind this is that they want to develop themselves in such a way that they can affect the world profoundly and also develop a self identity; it is important to develop the self keeping in mind the type of place they live in.

By engaging in such behaviours, the type 4w5 enneagram may seem distant at times; others may think they do not want to talk or interact, however in reality they are just too busy thinking about themselves and the world they live in. This might be one reason why people may think they are not too approachable or friendly!

Their ability to spend much time in their mind and the creative thinking style they have allows them to solve problems in a unique and beneficial manner. They are also very much thirsty for knowledge and have an urge to learn more and more about things. Hence, they are smart individuals who keep growing day by day with the knowledge they gain!

Relationships For 5w4s & 4w5s – How They Handle It?

The 4w5 enneagram does well when it comes to relationships. This is because they are able to connect with their significant partner in a deep and meaningful manner. They are also true to themselves and others and this prevents any misconceptions from entering into the relationship. They are committed and put in the time and effort to make things work.

They deeply desire to be of use and significance to their significant other however at the same time they may withdraw from their loved one when there is too much stress or conflict. Hence, the 5w4 enneagram needs to take responsibility and stay when problems have to faced.

Fears & Desires – 5w4s & 4w5s

Apart from having enough knowledge and wanting to impact the world in a positive manner, the enneagram type 4w5 wants to be able to develop their own personal identity in the entire process. They want to be known as someone who is unique and not just like others.

The type 4w5 enneagram also has their fears! The biggest fear they have – apart from not having enough knowledge – is to not be able to impact the world they live in. They want to be able to make a difference using the knowledge and skills they have and benefit people in such a manner that they are remembered or leave behind a legacy.

The main fear this enneagram type has is that of being helpless and incompetent. They do not want to be in a position where they cannot help themselves or defend themselves for that matter! Also, they are scared that they might feel useless. The 5w4 enneagram does not want to be in a position where they are not competent for a certain task or be of no use to others!

The basic desire of the type 5w4 enneagram stems from the fact that they want to feel competent and worthy. They want to be able to master a set of skills that they can use to not only ensure their independence and strong standing but also their ability to help others.

The type 5w4 enneagram wants to help and guide others too and they believe they can only do this if they have the right skills and knowledge. Hence they also desire that they possess a number of skills and much knowledge from different walks of life.


This article painted a detailed picture of the two enneagram types namely the 4w5 and 5w4 enneagram and commented on how compatible they are with each other. It also introduced the enneagrams and commented on their relationship behaviors as well as the fears and desires that motivate them.

If you’ve enjoyed the ”5w4 & 4w5 Relationships” you should take a look at ”5w4 Vs 6w5: The Enneagrams” and ”How Enneagram 5s Show Love?” too.




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